Hi everyone. I know that I haven't been on here but I'm really having some serious problems right now. Well first off I took everyone's advice about my ex lover. We were really going through with not seeing enough of each other and he just completely stopped talking to me for three whole weeks. And recently he text me and was like hi and to see how I was doing and he miss me or whatever. So what I want to know is he being selfish and trying to use me? Because when he came and picked me up we talked about what had been going on and he was asking me if I had a new boyfriend and all and so when we got to his place he wanted to sleep with me and I didn't want to do it but the way he did it I just had to give up so now I can text him and tell him things that happened to me like my cousin got killed and he was really caring or whatever but yet its back to the way it was and I don't even know if we are back together or not and I don't want to keep torturing my emotions like this so tell me what are his intentions of not talking to me for three whole weeks and then coming back on the spot?! Thank you in advance

You know those text devices often have a unique option, I know this may sound un-believable, but many will actucally work as a telephone. So why are you not calling them and talking to them so you can hear their voice, and actually see what is going on.

So ask him and then it is up to you if you give them another chance or not

Just ask him what his problem is. Tell him how you feel and that you want answers. Communication is key in any relationship.

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Okay me and my current boyfriend have really deep feeling each other. But since my mother does not like him because he's like 5 years older than me and since she does not want me talking to him we are not able to see each other. And I feel so heartbroken because I really do love him and he has been so patient with me but it has gotten so bad to the point where I haven't seen him in a whole month. And I haven't really been talking to him either and I just don't want to lose him because he means so much to me and he was my first(at age 17) and I just don't know what to do anymore. Even though I'm 18 years old my mother still treats me like a child and is so overprotective and sometimes I feel so left out in my family and I just want to run to him but I just don't know what steps to take or what to do. I just been so depressed and crying because I really need him and this is the longest I have ever been away from him and it hurts me so because I haven't talked to him in a whole week(my cell phone is off) and I don't know what's running through his mind right now... I mean I wonder is he still thnking about me or are we even still together?! What would you do?

You are 18 so legally you can get out and find a job. Are you able to do that?
Then you could save up and move out.
You might also try looking into grants and loans for school and move into a dorm.

It doesn't sound like there is much that you can really do at the moment. You would have to contact him to answer some of your questions. If both of you have really strong feelings for each other, as you have said, then eventually you will both get through this rough spot. You may want to try to reason with your mom if it seems possible... maybe then you will be able to see/speak to him more often.

Hey,you love your mother,and she loves you.
Talk to her.. appeal to that love she has for you,maybe its out of fear that she does not want you to see this man.
Your 18.but,if you want to pursue this relationship your going to have to sell the idea to your mother..
Ask to speak to her,tell her your so unhappy,she may say you will get over it etc,but just ask for a chance.. your relationship may not last the distance,I don't know,but show your mother you are an adult,by the way you approach her,and speak.
She was once young and in love too,remind her.

Seems your problem is that you still haven't gotten to be independent enough to make your own choices.

I would say that its more important to talk to mom, and get her use to you making decisions for yourself, but its still her house, and her rules, and she means well, but you have to convince her that you're an adult, and adults stand up for themselves, respectfully of course.

As for your guy, stop having sex, thats a foolish game you don't have enough facts about.

Now is not the time to be pregnant my dear, without having a chance to get your act together.

Okay my phone has been off for like a week now and I text my boyfriend off like two people phones and then the other day I text him and I was like hi ****. Wow I haven't tlked to you in like 4 years( it's a way that we useed to joke when we didn't see each other or talk) I really miss you. So are we still friends or what? And then he text back and was like who is this and I text back and said **** and he was liike from where? So do you think he was being funny or just didn't want to tlk to me since we ddnt talk for a whole week?

Its possible he may have been being funny. You say you text from phones that were not yours, this may have confused him, and when he asked who it was and you told him, he may have been silly.

You said it yourself, you text him from a different phone, so he's just being cautions. He doesn't want to assume it's you.

Why don't you just call him directly?

Are you guys long distance?

No we both stay in miami. When I received the text that said from where I just text back and said never mind. I guess I neva existed in your eyes anyway and then he called

Oh good. Did he get it all straghtened out? Is everything OK?

Nope I didn't answer.

Well that wasn't good. Why didn't you answer? He may have been calling to say sorry and say it was just a joke and that he didn't mean to hurt your feelings.

How old are you guys? Sounds like you two are playing games with each other. Why can't you just speak directly?

Maybe you should use the phone next time instead of texting. It's your boyfriend, it's not like you would be bothering him by calling instead.

Sounds like he was just joking too... or maybe he has amnesia.

The more pressing issue is why you haven't spoken in a week. If your phone is off and you're able to use a friends, why did it take you a week to get in contact with your boyfriend?

Because I'm more of a serious type person and when he said that I got really upset and didn't want to tlk to him anymore

Im 18 and he's 22. Because I'm not a phone type person

Because... im not good at expressing myself and I was always stuck on the rule of waiting for the guy to call first soi was just going to wait until I turned my phone back off for him to call me