Hi everyone,

I came to this forum with a hope that I will find some appropriate advice. I had breakup with my girlfriend (Though I tried a lot to patch up with her and apologized a lot for my wrong did) but she did not forgive me and simply stopped every kind of contact with me. I called her she did not pick up my calls, I emailed her a lot she did not reply to anyone, I contacted her family members but it did not work, I utilized all the options but she seems to be happy with her decision of break up with me.

We had very loving, caring and committed relationship for almost three years, very soon we were going to get engage and marry but in the meanwhile she got a chance of scholarship abroad and since I did not want to leave my country due to my own circumstances, that's the thing which lead us to break up, as per her statement, My wrong did which she claimed the cause of break up is that she thought I am teasing her from an another number and I am calling her, smsing her and talking to her rabbish. I confess that she forgot all what I did for her, I ruined my career for her, I fought with my all family for her, I lost many of friends because of her, I spent my three years which I fully dedicated to her because I was of this hope (and offcourse she assured me of this) that she would become my life partner but now at the end she so wrong with me. Might be I would not be hurted so much but the way she adopted for breakup that's hurted me the most. WHERE IS HER LOVE GONE? WHERE IS HER CARE GONE? WHERE IS HER THOUGHTS GONE?

After all my efforts gone useless, I also stopped all sort of contacts with her and that is the most difficult thing for me to manage. I tried all my efforts, I tried to diversify my thinking but nothing worked, I am not forgetting her, whenever I think about her it hurts me a lot. What should I do? Where should I go? We had very good time and that good time is not going out of my mind, I sometime feel that happiness of my world has come to an end. I am afraid that how will my life go on without her and the worst is that She is not concern about me anymore (I think so).

Please advice me what should I do? I want to forget her Or otherwise I want her to apology for her blame or at least I want her to realize her mistake, I don't want to make her upset but just want to tell her that I love her a lot and what she thought about me was absolutely wrong. Time is very short with me as well as with her and I am afraid if we do not go the right way then it will be too late.

Will be thankful for your advice.

Time IS short but it's what you make of your time. You're putting all your time into a person who doesn't want to invest their time in YOU.

Do you think that's fair?


The reason you're still hurting, is because you're not letting go. Let it go man, she left and isn't coming back. Reality check: She has your life and it's only up to you to take it back. Go get it, and get it by accepting that she is gone.

You leave her alone , as its clear she wants nothing to do with you, and learn to cope with your own feelings of shocked disbelief.

You tried it didn't work, now keep your dignity and self respect, by getting your act together, without her.