Falling for someone new. After only a short time
Someone I've been getting to know has surprised me and I like what's happening. I'm still angry with my ex-boyfriend and still think about our relationship and where it went wrong, but I've been forgetting him fast and the pain has disappeared. That's partly because I was resolved in my own mind that it was over and I was determined to move on... but also because someone else I met only a few weeks ago has been turning everything around and I've suddenly found myself falling in love with him.
He has a sober and healthy approach to life. Is very fit. He has an extraordinary mind and I can relate to him. He's soulful and strong... physically and emotionally, and we have a lot in common. In fact, I've not enjoyed the little things with anyone as much I have with him. We've been swimming together, we both spend a lot of time at the gym, we both loved walking around the lake in the evening after work that was dreamlike, we both enjoy playing scrabble, and he's done things with his life that has me really interested. And he's very interested in me.
Because he has custody of his 16 year old daughter who he is very protective of and who sounds as amazing as he is, and since I've wanted to go much more slowly in getting to know someone, we haven't really touched yet. Except that he took my hand to help me climb a wall we needed to get over during our walk -- which was one of those moments when I knew I was falling in love with him. That was the evening before yesterday, and we're now keen to see each other over the weekend and have made plans to see each other tomorrow evening. In fact he rang out of the blue tonight because his plans with his son suddenly changed and he really wanted to see me... only I missed his call and we couldn't get together.
My daughter is staying at her friend's place tomorrow and it could be the first time we'll really be alone. I know he and I are reaching the point of wanting to be together. In fact, everything he's said so far has made me feel he made up his mind about us the first time we met.
I immediately trusted this man, and still feel very clear about that. I've enjoyed every moment of getting to know him and it just keeps getting better.
It's true there's still a lot I can't know about him... we haven't actually talked about what we might want out of our relationship yet... whether it's long term and wait and see, or if there is a strong desire to find the person who each of us wants to spend the rest of our lives with, which is actually I want and would be prepared to wait for if necessary.
Should I slow this down a little, or trust this feeling? Or maybe trust him to take the lead and know when it's the right time to let me know what he's wanting from me, knowing it would be better to have that talk before we get much closer?
