My fiancé wants to relinquish his rights he doesn't want the child to have his last name and he doesn't want to pay child support anymore... the mother doesn't let us see the child she is remarried and upset that my fiancé has moved on too. We haven't seen his daughter in almost 8 months we don't have 20-30 thousand $ or the time to get a lawyer for visitation or joint custody, and by my understanding the mother has done this to him before the child is 8 and out of all those years he's seen the child a total of 3 years!

So, what is your question? Other than how this will effect the child? Poor thing.

Sadly these things are hard on everyone.

If he wants to give up his rights, and the mother is OK with it, ( often done so the new husband can adopt) Then they can do it. Most mothers don't do it, since they want child support ( she can force him to pay)

Some states don't honor grandparents rights, some do.

I don't think he can relinquish his rights unless the new father puts in for adoption. I am with J-9 and don't know your question.

Well, if he has a court order to pay child support, there's really no way he can get out of it, period. Likewise, if the child has been proven to be his, she cannot take away his rights to visitation. If he chooses not to exercise them that's his prerogative but nothing can just be "taken away" or "relinquished."