Well I liked this guy well when I did I wrote him a note asking him out well he said he had a girlfriend and that we could be friends. So I said OK. Then I liked someone else but it didn't last long because I went back to liking him. I asked him out again and he said that he and this one girl was talking about dating and he also said he likes being single and for me to leave him alone. So I said OK. Then all of a sudden he starts bugging me and I told the counselor three times so I told him to leave me alone but he won't. Then we bumped into each other in gym a couple times. He's cute, he's got a nice smile, great abbs because when the teachers not looking he flips his shirt up in front of me, blue eyes, brown hair, and a great sense of hummer.. I keep going back to him in every relationship that I've had and I haven't had very many because I keep liking him. I just don't know what to do. Some of my friends tell me to get over him but some say that I can't help it but like him. I think he is giving mixed signals but then again it could be something else so will someone please help me out.

Why don't you just ask him what it is that changed his mind from he told you to leave him alone to now he seems interested in you. Don't just jump into anything with him.
The best thing to do is really get to know him and let him see who you really are. You don't want to just be another girl he can add to his list of girls that he has liked. Ask him questions to see how genuine he is.

Writing notes? About 12 or 13 year old?

Me and him are 15. I like to write notes.

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Why don't you just ask him what it is that changed his mind from he told you to leave him alone to now he seems interested in you. Don't just jump into anything with him.
The best thing to do is really get to know him and let him see who you really are. You don't want to just be another girl he can add to his list of girls that he has liked. Ask him questions to see how genuine he is.

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But I don't know if he is. I've tried calling him and texting him because he gave me his number but it seems to be off, because he won't pick up. I wouldn't jump into anything with him. Genuine he is? I guess I can get part of what you are saying.

EDIT:: sorry about the last post, a true idiot got a hold of my keyboard.

Maybe you should give it a rest for a bit. He isn't picking up your calls.

Have you ever hung out with him?

Sarah

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What?

I think he is just pulling your change. He knows you like him, it's an ego trip for him. He has told you once to leave him alone. Leave him alone. If he is truly interested let him let you know by telling you so, then there will be no second guessing.

What all has he directly said and done that give you the impression he is interested?
The things you have mentioned like picking up his T shirt could be just him teasing you and playing games with your emotions.

If he isn't picking up the phone or messaging you then you most probably should just forget him until he comes right out with 'Do you want to go out?'

Well I've had my bus driver give this guy some of my notes from me to him to give to him well I also told my bus driver that he don't talk to me. And so my bus driver went up to him and talked to him saying you got to talk to her and he said I do I talk to everyone, I like her its just I can't have 8 girlfriends. My bus driver said yea I know. Then he came on the bus and told me what all he said and what all drew said. I don't know what else to do. I've asked my friend brittney what she might of thought and she said that the reason he's not answering his phone could be because he don't have signal. I thought maybe he lost it or his phone charger. I don't know, but I can't seem to get this guy out of my head. Is it wrong to have just one guy stuck in your head every day and all day?

Get over him, he has a big ego and is stringing you along... he doesn't like you, if he did he wouldn't give you excuses and then lead you on. Move on, try to realize that nothing's going to happen and if it does he won't be gentle about it cause right now he isn't. He sounds like a typical jerk who's leading you on.

Your probably right but I'm trying to move on but he keeps bugging me and shows me his abs and won't leave me alone and when he does that it makes me like him again. I can't help it. Should I report it to the cops as sexual harassment?

First of all, please keep things anonymous when posting on an online forum. I hope that "Drew Retter" is a pseudonym and not his real name. This will protect you and others from any potential predators or legal culpability. Now, to answer your question, you're young and he is young so of course he's unsure of himself and giving you mixed signals. I wouldn't think in terms of pursuing a "relationship" with this guy but just stick to friendship instead - no strings attached.

Actually that is his real name. I forgot about preditors. Yea but I keep thinking that maybe me and him should be together.

Look, I know you feel tempted to like him when he shows you his abs (which is stupid... ) but don't be with him, you lust him right now, I don't think you really like him. Your reasons for liking him are a bit shallow and completely physical, I'm sure if this guy wasn't so "hot" you would be swooning or thinking twice over him. Just let him go, detach yourself if you can't handle being just friends. Meet new guys or don't focus on them at all... Be with friends or occupy yourself with activities or hobbies that let you take your mind off this guy.

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well i've had my bus driver give this guy some of my notes from me to him to give to him well i also told my bus driver that he don't talk to me. and so my bus driver went up to him and talked to him saying you got to talk to her and he said i do i talk to everyone, i like her its just i can't have 8 girlfriends. my bus driver said yea i know. then he came on the bus and told me what all he said and what all drew said. idk what else to do. i've asked my friend brittney what she might of thought and she said that the reason he's not answering his phone could be because he don't have signal. i thought maybe he lost it or his phone charger. idk, but i can't seem to get this guy out of my head. is it wrong to have just one guy stuck in your head every day and all day?

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It's not wrong, but it's foolish. Especially one who admits he has 8 girl friends.
Come girl, he is not the only boy in the world and don't demean yourself like this. Get a clue. He is not interested in you, and if he were you'd be #9 in line.

You both have a lot of growing up to do. Are you sure you are 15?

I've tried doing other things but the other things I do like watch TV, listen to music all remind me of him. I've tried detaching myself from him and I keep trying to tell myself he's no good. I try to picture the school year without him but I can't. I don't think there is no way I can get out of this, I mean I don't think anyone can help me. Yes I'm 15, iwas born nov5, 1993. Anybody out there that is an experienced at this that will try to help me?

What do you mean try to help you? If "help" is hearing what you want then sorry, help yourself. The reason we're all telling you to move on is because you should, and any smart person will tell you that. You will get seriously hurt if you stick around, and although I spend a large amount of time watching TV and listening to music, I mean being productive. Go for a bike ride, start drawing, go for walks.. anything. Excersize! Just watching t.v. isn't going to do much for anyone. And trust me, I'm your age and "experienced" I know that if you stick around or even think about sticking around, you will not be happy in the end.

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i've tried doing other things but the other things i do like watch tv, listen to music all remind me of him. i've tried detaching myself from him and i keep trying to tell myself he's no good. i try to picture the school year without him but i can't. i don't think there is no way i can get out of this, i mean i don't think anyone can help me. yes i'm 15, i was born nov 5, 1993. anybody out there that is an experienced at this that will try to help me?

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You don't want help. You want someone to tell you that this guy really likes you and if you wait long enough he will come around. It ain't going to happen!

This guy is playing with you. He does not like you, he has 8 other girl friends. Find something productive to do with your time. Go out with friends, go for walks, do some volunteer work someplace. But stop daydreaming about this boy.