OK so me and my daughter's father have been together for almost four years and we just had our baby back in December... so like while I was pregnant he wasn't there for me he was always with his friends... after I had her he still wasn't there for me... recently he just started being around me and spending time with us... and between all the time he wasn't around and he wasn't giving me any attention I cheated and I had sex with someone else and he just found out so I admitted to it now of course he's really angry with... I love him and I'm sorry how do I get him back... (((OH YEA I WAS HIS FIRST HE NEVER HAD SEX WITH ANY ONE ELSE SO IT HURTS HIM EVEN MORE)))... SOMEONE PLEASE HELP ME:(

So, while you were pregnant and hormonal, he wasn't there.

After you had a baby and needed help, he wasn't there.

While he wasn't there, you had an affair.

This doesn't sound like a healthy relationship to me.

Just looking at the fact that he wasn't there makes me question why you'd want him anyway... why would you want him back in the first place?

The fact that you had an affair... well, that may be why he doesn't want to come back.

Cheating is never OK, never right, and should never happen. Period.

Sounds like you need to focus on your child and your own health and wellbeing.

Yea but before he wasn't there he was like the best and he started going back to who he use to be tthen he found out about the affair and he's really hurt... and I put my daughter and my health before everything I just really want him back in my life

Obviously if you put your daugther and your health before everything, you need to move on and accept that he just really doesn't want anything to do with either of you. HC is right, this is NOT a good relationship for ANYONE involived.