Ok, So me and this girl have been dating for about 5 weeks now over the internet, We met about a year ago on a virtual chatroom called habbo hotel and have always had these hanging out rooms we would go into and chat, So basically we only really started chatting 6 weeks ago and we knew we were crazy about each other, Recently this week she has been acting weird around me telling me she's been depressed, but doesn't know the reason why, She hasn't been allowed on the internet for 3 days and her dad won't tell her. She's 16 and I'm the same age, And recently we were agreeing to meet up, The times, The place etc. Then I get a message from her on msn "Sorry, Can't do july, Going to america" I was fine with that because we would just set another date, She lives in italy and was moving back to england in September. I manage to get onto her Facebook [Dont ask why] And what I see is a message to this girl, I can't remember what but it was along the lines of "Hey, Posted on private mail cause some people wanted to meet up with me and i said i can't do it, il be down for 2 weeks can't wait" Being the fool I am I confronted her about it, Her excuse was, Something like "Oh I said that because I didn't want my friend to know I was down and I rang jess [the girl she messaged] up later saying I wasn't. But she told me that she hadn't had any credit and wasn't allowed to use her house fone because it would cost them twice as much, Being in italy. She always used to say, "Guess what" And I would reply what, And she would say she loved me, Its been a week since she last did that, And today she wouldn't stop going on about her friends in glouster, Like this guy called Tom, Then she quickly said she had to go, And only gave me 7 x's when normally she filled up the page with them, I hate to be a drag and fussy, But she would be the person to do loads, Sorry for the long message, Does she not feel the same or am I just being paranoid?

Sounds a little harsh, but hang with me: there is NO such thing as an "internet" girlfriend. Relationships don't work like that. Try and meet someone tangible. No matter how much you thought you knew her, you don't. Get out from behind the computer and experience life, real life, not the kind that you can script using a keyboard and computer screen. What you call love, I call infatuation. You two were NOT dating. Dating is not done electronically.

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Originally Posted by kctiger

Sounds a little harsh, but hang with me: there is NO such thing as an "internet" girlfriend. Relationships don't work like that. Try and meet someone tangible. No matter how much you thought you knew her, you don't. Get out from behind the computer and experience life, real life, not the kind that you can script using a keyboard and computer screen. What you call love, I call infatuation. You two were NOT dating. Dating is not done electronically.

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Obviouslly I've had several girls in the past, Both rocky and amazing, This one seem's right! We both go on cam to each other and speak over the phone and it almost feels like its real. And we were going to meet anyway.

Do you really think she just sits at the computer and not have a real life? That's what you need.

At 16, saying the love word can mean anything.

I might be to old, but how do 16 year olds plan to meet up in other countries?

I have to disagree, but kctiger isn't WRONG so I'm not going to do a 'disagree' button or anything cause I'm not "RIGHT" either.

But my husband and I met on the internet and dated there for several months before getting together in real life. Its not unheared of. Its rare, and VERY HARD. But its not impossible. I personally consider it dating.


FREDO,

Remmember you are still young. It doesn't sound to me like this girl was ever serious about a relationship with you. I would move on. You deserve better than a girl who will string you along like that.

Good luck hon :D *hugs*

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Originally Posted by talaniman

Do you really think she just sits at the computer and not have a real life?? Thats what you need.

At 16, saying the love word can mean anything.

I might be to old, but how do 16 year olds plan to meet up in other countries?

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She's moving back in September, And I've left year 11. I got a life, Hence why we are constantly on the phone to each other while we are both out.

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Originally Posted by jenniepepsi

i have to disagree, but kctiger isnt WRONG so im not gonna do a 'disagree' button or anything cause im not "RIGHT" either.

but my husband and i met on the internet and dated there for several months before getting together in real life. its not unheared of. its rare, and VERY HARD. but its not impossible. i personally consider it dating.


FREDO,

remmember you are still young. it doesnt sound to me like this girl was ever serious about a relationship with you. I would move on. you deserve better than a girl who will string you along like that.

good luck hon :D *hugs*

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Thank's that is really good advice! Do you think she could be lying to me? It's just a hard thing to understand with her really it's really getting me down when I really shouldn't bother with internet love xD *Hugs* ^_^

This isn't love... I am sorry to spit out facts and not sugar coat things, but give me a break. 5 weeks is the amount of time you two have been "dating." You are 16, and I will say it: You have NO idea what love really is right now.

There are exceptions to everything in life, and yes I realize people meet on the internet, but as a 16 year old, you have no business meeting your dream girl on the internet.

Load me up with reddies people, I know you want to.

Lol I wasn't suggesting that he was feeling 'LOVE' I agree with you that it was an infatuation and not LOVE. I was just saying that internet relationships DO work sometimes. :P

Sorry, I DO tend to sugar coat things a lot :P its OK that you don't ;)

And I don't want to load you up with reddies :P I agree with you. Neither one of us is 'right' or 'wrong' it's a matter of opinions, circumstance, and experience.

She "seems" right... great. When you meet you'll figure out if she could be right.

I'm with KC on this one. Internet relationships can add zest to your days, fun to your online time; but, in the long run, they are not real relationships. They're friendships. They're comaraderie. They aren't love... they're the beginning.

Every relationship that has started online, at some point, moves into the "meeting up" and figuring out if what you've said really is the truth.

But... that's the fun part about developing a relationship.

Very good point HistorianChick! I didn't even consider that. Once you have met in real life, its not really an online relationship anymore. And you never know if its going to work until you DO meet in real life.

Thanks for pointing that out hon :D