Last week I was at a gathering with my best friend and I met this guy. He engaged in conversation with me and I was intrigued. He asked how old I was and I replied 19 and he told me he was 24. He's very handsome, in graduate school, nice job. And Im only going into my sophomore year in college. With knowing all this already he still asked me if I would like to go out sometime. Is he just thinking that Im some young and stupid girl and he's just after the sex? Or is he sincere in his efforts? He has contacted me several times since we've met. And I'm used to younger guys my age who text all time... should I not expect that out of him because he's older? I really don't know what to expect from this at all... please help

19 and 24? In my books that's OK. Treat it as any other dating ritual.

But do you have any tips? Like not calling or txtn too much or is that all a game?

You're both young adults so I don't see the problem. He sounds like a nice person because the way to truly get to know someone is through actual conversation, not texting.

So far his intentions seem forthright but if you start feeling like he's treating you like a "young and stupid girl" then stop dealing with him.

Just enjoy getting to know him and see what he's about.

Well first off, we don't know this guy nor his intentions. You haven't really posted much about this guy only that he talked to you and would like to get to know you.

There aren't many "tips" except to be yourself. I wouldn't like to be in a relationship and follow "tips" that different people throw at me.

Sarah

I have a 32 year old guy cousin who texts as much as a 12 year old so I really think it is a matter of personal preference. I think it is great he actually wants to talk and not text. Give it a shot if he tries to get in your pants on the first date then you have your answer about him thinking you are just a young dumb girl.

The only way you will find out is by going out with him. Stick to neutral locations if you feel so uncomfortable.

Sometimes I wonder how I can not figure out woman when their questions about us guys seem so simple.

If you want to know what his intentions are don't get too physical too fast. Go out together, have fun (movies, games, dinner, etc) and see where it goes. If a guy is ONLY interested in getting in your pants, there is a good chance he will not devote a whole lot of time & money into you for very long without getting what he wants. Besides.. if you give it up too easy, there is a very good chance he will not respect you anyway.. and without his respect you're already written off and just became an option.

As far as the txting thing goes. I'm an older guy and a few of the younger girls I have talked to alwaysss txt and it drives me nuts. I can deal with it, and I will respond.. BUT I really prefer/would like a phone call every once in awhile in the beginning at LEAST to have a nice conversation from time to time. Cute txt's here and there are fun, but to do it all day everyday.. ugh shoot me. But I do think that is an age difference thing... at least for me.

Remember to keep it simple and have fun.. you will find out VERY quickly what his intentions are. BUT don't assume he just wants to sleep with you, I like younger woman for many reasons.. and just to sleep with them is never my intentions.

Thumper