We've been dating for about 6 months now, and we still haven't had sex.
The story of why is because he had injured his private and it was scratched up, but it has been more then enough time for it to heal, now he's saying he's just paranoid. I don't understand it because he will do everything but sex, and if he's paranoid about sex why does he let me do other stuff?
Ive been thinking lately if I should just leave him, or still stay with him.
He says he loves me so much and I love him too but it seems like he's not telling me something and every time I mention it, it's the same excuse and it turns into a big fight.

If sex is this much of a problem, perhaps you should leave. Love isn't worrying about sex or even perhaps pressured into it. Girls don't like to be pressured, neither do guys. When someone pushes me, I push back a lot harder.

How old are you? If it's his first time, he's right to be scared, a lot could happen and a lot could go wrong. If you ask me, his heads in the right place

Well he says he's not a virgin that he has had plenty of partners before, and every time it's that time of the month for me he says he's OK and able too and as soon as I end he's all about not having sex anymore. I feel like there's something wrong with me, like he's not telling me something, I've asked all the possible reasons for him not wanting to have sex and he still sticks to the same excuse but it makes no sense

How old is he? Is there any way he could be an ftm (female to male transsexual)? I have to think if that were the case, he'd have told you earlier. Have you seen his "private"?

Edit;
More info. A female to male transsexual may present as a male, due to the use of testosterone. Unfortunately, surgery to create a convincing and functioning penis is still not available. Most ftm's opt out of this surgery, leaving them with their original female genitalia below the waist.

If sex is such a big problem, then it's enough to break up.

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Originally Posted by lmjordan06

everytime its that time of the month for me he says hes ok and able too and as soon as i end hes all about not having sex anymore

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You've already tried to talk it out. He keeps giving you false hope by telling you that he's breaking his word. How can you trust what he says anymore?

You said he's had plenty of partners? I wonder if he has an STD that he doesn't want you to get. Time to open the lines of communication.

Well we are both in the military so we get checked for stds regularly, and get treated for them if we have them, but I don't know what else to think

I had a friend in the military that had herpes. He dated lots of women, but only went to bed with the ones that also had herpes.