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  • Jun 16, 2009, 04:04 PM
    ladyunique
    Heartbroken & devastated
    Dear all,
    The love of my life has left me after 4 yrs together & I'm experiencing shaking hands, arm numbness, 'aching'heavy' heart, loss of appetite, & more...
    Since the day he left me; (4 days ago), I've been boozing 24/7 with little sleep or food. I've got 2 son's to care for but I'm finding it a hard struggle. I'm not strong in myself, so how can I be strong for them?

    I need my man to come home to me now!
    Will he?
  • Jun 16, 2009, 04:12 PM
    none12345

    Who knows but you need to prepare for if he doesn't which is most likely the case.

    Put no contact into place and slowly those symptoms will start to disappear.
  • Jun 16, 2009, 04:51 PM
    lighterrr

    You may be down and out now but you got to get your priorities straight, you got 2 young children that need you and not a drunken mommy. They deserve better, no one can say for sure if he will come back. Try to take comfort in your beautiful children, draw on their love to help you get through this, they need you mommy.

    I am sorry for your heartbreak with the ex, but your life will go on.

    Good luck to you
  • Jun 16, 2009, 05:02 PM
    I wish

    I'm sorry to hear about your situation. No one knows if he'll come back, but you have to start moving on. You can't put your life on hold for him. You have more important things to take care of. You got to focus on yourself and your children. Don't be scared to get some help. Ask your family and friends to help you out with taking care of your children so that you can take care of yourself.
  • Jun 17, 2009, 02:14 AM
    MiSSsy111222

    I defiantly don't think he will come back if your drinking and losing control. I'm sorry for your loss, I really am but you need to be strong for yourself and your children. The more quicker you pull yourself together the quicker you move on.
  • Jun 17, 2009, 07:53 AM
    HistorianChick

    Oh Honey, I'm so sorry for your loss. Losing someone that has been by your side for four years is truly a huge hole in your life. It will be hard, it will take a while, but honestly, you will be OK.

    You have two sons to live for... "boozing 24/7" could kill you. You have to decide that your sons are worth living for.

    You're worth living for.

    You need air to breathe to survive.
    You need food to eat to survive.
    You need a purpose to live for to survive.
    You don't need a man to survive.

    You will survive this.
  • Jun 17, 2009, 05:43 PM
    ladyunique
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by HistorianChick View Post
    Oh Honey, I'm so sorry for your loss. Losing someone that has been by your side for four years is truly a huge hole in your life. It will be hard, it will take a while, but honestly, you will be ok.

    You have two sons to live for... "boozing 24/7" could kill you. You have to decide that your sons are worth living for.

    You're worth living for.

    You need air to breathe to survive.
    You need food to eat to survive.
    You need a purpose to live for to survive.
    You don't need a man to survive.

    You will survive this.

    Thanks so much xx
  • Jun 17, 2009, 05:47 PM
    ladyunique

    Thanks 4 all da messages peeps!
    Da thing is, I don't have any family, and da few true mates I can trust obviously have their own lives :(
    But your rite, my 2 boy's u'rte my life, I'll live 4 100%+++++ xxx
  • Jun 17, 2009, 06:03 PM
    lighterrr

    Great to hear good luck to you and remember where all only a amhd post away, visit us anytime
  • Jun 17, 2009, 06:07 PM
    rob_reaper

    First off you don't "need" your man you want him back. You need only food, water, sleep to live. I understand your sad but your children need you so reach deep down inside and find the strength to go on for them.

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