I have had it often, but the 'afterward' pain is what kills me! The during part is bearable, slightly enjoyable, but the week after is pain, bloody stool, and a lot of standing!! When, if ever, will I stop having this aftermath torture?:eek:

What kind of anal sex are you HAVING?

Occasionally--VERY occasionally--I'll have bloody stool, and discomfort for a few HOURS.

You should see your doctor about this.

Yes see your doc it could be something else that is going on in your colon. Do you use lubricate? You should try to have a rectal exam, because what you are describing is not normal.

I had the type of bleeding you are describing after I gave birth to my son. Doc said he though it could have been a hemorrhoid.

Good luck and take care of yourself.

Yes, a few hours but not for that long. You need to see your doctor

What every one here said is right, see a doctor.

It sounds as if the sex is creating a lesion, or rubbing the anal canal raw. In any case, please see your doctor as it could be anything and it could potentially be serious.

I would also question participating in a sexual activity that is painful and that hurts you. This may be your choice, but there are a multitude of other things that you can choose to do which are enjoyable!

When done properly it should not hurt or bleed! This is very rare!

There needs to be lots of preparation, lots of lubricant and a partner willing to go at YOUR pace.

I have slight discomfort for maybe 5-10 minutes afterwards but never any bleeding!

Tell your partner to stop being so rough! Go to your doctor as well and get checked out for heameroids (sorry can't spell that!)

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i have had it often, but the 'afterward' pain is what kills me! the during part is bearable, slightly enjoyable, but the week after is pain, bloody stool, and a lot of standing!!!! when, if ever, will i stop having this aftermath torture?:eek:

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If you have ANY blood at all you are not doing it right, or using enough lube. You should NEVER have any bleeding at all. And it should not be painful at all afterwards. And I am talking from over 25 years of experience with back door sex.

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i have had it often, but the 'afterward' pain is what kills me! the during part is bearable, slightly enjoyable, but the week after is pain, bloody stool, and a lot of standing!!!! when, if ever, will i stop having this aftermath torture?:eek:

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That's an exit door, not an entrance. There's your problem.

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That's an exit door, not an entrance. There's your problem.

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You do NOT know what you are missing by leaving that out of your bag of tricks cozyk. Lots, and I mean LOTS of nerve endings there make it enjoyible.

Key is go slowly, (if there is pain you aren't allowing enough time to relax and moving too fast) and use lots of lube and the anus does not self lube.

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That's an exit door, not an entrance. There's your problem.

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This is the OP CHOICE, as you have your own. That doesn't mean that your choice is right or better than hers.

Most people do not have complications with anal sex.

There are mitigating factors to the symptoms the OP is describing.

People post for advice, not judgement or to hear how someone else lives their life.

So your problem, is the advice is unwarranted and uncalled for.

P.S. If you are a sexual prude (which is not a bad thing), then maybe posting on the Adult Sexuality board is not the place to post.

I think she, or actually HE might be rushing the penitration... forcing it in before she has relaxed enough naturally. This only takes a few minutes at most, but is critical. I'm also willing to bet they aren't using enough of the right lubricant... and no spit isn't the right one. And also possible that they are trying to park the car in the garage with their Truck is already parked there. ( as in colon is not empty). We usually time it so within a few hours after a bowel movement... but not less than 45 minutes after one. Eliminates the pulling out a Plum from the pie surprise.

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Eliminates the pulling out a Plum from the pie suprise.

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Ewww, did you have to give us a visual Smoothy? :(

:: placing plum (break snack) into garbage ::

Well here I was excited for summer fruits. :)

Hey what fun is it if you don't toss in a few funny if not colorful analogies every so often.:D

I'm floored. Love the honesty on this post. All are right. Decision and preference is the OP's. Just want to add, that you should please please see your doctor.

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Ewww, did you have to give us a visual Smoothy? :(

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Well this is the reality of it isn't it? Not only can the garage already be occupied, but the garage is full of crap... so to speak. Doesn't bring about a very pleasant visual.

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You do NOT know what you are missing by leaving that out of your bag of tricks cozyk. Lots, and I mean LOTS of nerve endings there make it enjoyible.

Key is go slowly, (if there is pain you aren't allowing enough time to relax and moving too fast) and use lots of lube and the anus does not self lube.

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It works just like a suppository and gets those gears turning.

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Well this is the reality of it isn't it? Not only can the garage already be occupied, but the garage is full of crap...so to speak. Doesn't bring about a very pleasant visual.

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Its not even a fraction of a bad as you try to make it out to be. Seriously. Wait 45 minutes after a bowel movement, and there are no bad smells or "crap" to deal with at all. And its always a good idea to wash up after any form of sex for the obvious reasons as well.

I've got over 25 years of "sneaking in the back door" without any "suprises" in all that time. And no complaints about any pain after the first couple of experiences with the women who have not yet learned to relax the sphincter and communicate their current state of readiness.

I really do pity the poor fellows married to women who refuse anal and/or oral ( And I am pointing no fingers, it's a general comment). That would make for a horribly dull marital sex life. And yes... I have dated women like that in the past so they do in fact exist. I'm quite happy my wife does not hold any of these inhibitions. Because even after 17 years of marriage, we still "willingly get it on" nearly every single night.

Edit: And I do wish to say the same for women married to far less openminded men than themselves.

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I really do pity the poor fellows married to women who refuse anal and/or oral ( And I am pointing no fingers, its a general comment). That would make for a horribly dull marital sex life. And yes...I have dated women like that in the past so they do in fact exist. I'm quite happy my wife does not hold any of these inhibitions. Because even after 17 years of marriage, we still "willingly get it on" nearly every single night.

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The same goes for men. There is so much more to a wonderful sex life than missionary. The bedroom, a comfortable partner are all about communicating and experimentation.

I agree 100%.

At least be willing to try, In my opinion.