I was dating this guy for several months and broke if off because I have trust issues and he took me back and I promised I'd never break up with him again. Well he tells me just a few days ago he has cheated a lot like on most of his girlfriends and even his fiancé and now that's why they aren't together. So of get scared and break it off again and now I regret this and he said he refused to settle down with some who always has doubts. So any way that he will take me back?

If he is smart, he will stick by his guns.

A roller coaster doesn't make for a good stable relationship.

I think the question you should be asking yourself is why you want to date this person in the first place.

From what you said, if I read it correctly, it sounds like he's proud of cheating since he "refuses to settle down with anyone should he have doubts".

He sounds like a cocky prick who's really a weakling, find someone else.

He tells you all of that about his cheating ways, then holds it against you for having doubts about him? Oh my god just go and don't look back. That's the stupidest thing I have ever heard. Do you want someone like that?

You had trust issues the first time, and as it turns out, so did a lot of other women, including his fiancé. All of you have reason not to trust him.

That being said, you have to give the guy credit for telling you the truth. And what would his motive be, if not to come clean, in order for you to trust him now.

Maybe he has matured, and is ready for a one woman relationship. He trusted you enough to hear the truth, and I'm wondering what his motivation was. He could have kept it to himself, and you'd never have known.

Maybe it is better to move on because it will be too hard to get over what he has done, but maybe too, he deserves a chance to talk?

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Originally Posted by 88sunflower

He tells you all of that about his cheating ways, then holds it against you for having doubts about him? Oh my god just go and dont look back. Thats the stupidest thing I have ever heard. Do you want someone like that?

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Absolutely! I had to spread the rep

You have doubt's about him.

He's a cheater.

You flip-flop too much.

This won't work out.

Move on.

So your instincts about him were right and he is manipulating you to feel like you should be the guilty one because you broke up with him. Count your blessings and be glad you are away from someone with such a messed up perspective on life.

Why put yourself through that rollar coaster again? The trust is broken. You'll be expecting him to do whatever her can to earn your trust. Why he put himself through that too?

There are better guys out there. Why settle for a cheater?

Sounds like you both personal issues that need to be worked out before you engage in relationship with anyone. No pointing fingers on this one... trust, loyalty, etc go a longgg way.. learn them.

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