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  • Jun 16, 2009, 08:46 AM
    bigdaddyfk33
    How big is enough?
    OK, my wife says I am obsessed with my penis size, this is probably true. I just can't seem to stop thinking about it though. When we watch porn, the guys in the movies seem so much bigger than I am. Maybe I am making a poor comparison.

    My wife says that I am the perfect size and the perfect fit, she seems to orgasm and really enjoy our lovemaking as do I. I am 6.25 in length and 5.5 in girth, but it just doesn't seem big enough to me. Sometimes I think my wife just says it's perfect so it doesn't hurt my feelings. I know she has been with much bigger guys and that bothers me a lot! She says the bigger ones really hurt so, maybe she is telling me the truth.

    Any advise on penis size? What is enough? Love to hear from the ladies on this one
  • Jun 16, 2009, 08:50 AM
    nikosmom

    Your wife is satisfied. That's all that matters.
  • Jun 16, 2009, 08:59 AM
    Justwantfair

    You think her body is measuring you??

    I don't understand this thought process, I know it's common.

    Unless you on one end of the extreme or another, we couldn't ever tell you that you are a 6.25 and our last was a 7.1, it just doesn't work like that.

    We (women) aren't measuring size during sex. We are measuring our pleasure, your pleasure, what we are going to next, what we really want to try. Unless you are an extreme, your penis size hasn't influenced any of those factors.
  • Jun 16, 2009, 09:06 AM
    Wondergirl

    It's what you do with it and with your mouth and tongue and fingers and the warmth of your body and all the love in your heart that we care about. Worrying about your penis size is so third grade mentality. I've never understood why guys have to compare and be the biggest. It must be a male thing, hunter-killer thing, "my gun is bigger than yours." Women couldn't care less. Just come home in time for supper and then snuggle with me afterwards in front of the fire.
  • Jun 16, 2009, 09:36 AM
    Synnen

    Do you judge women by breast size? How about by the length of their tongue?

    Size is STUPID. It's a very male mentality, and most women do not get it at all.

    What needs to be big enough is your imagination and your willingness to love and satisfy your wife, not your penis.
  • Jun 16, 2009, 09:51 AM
    headraccoon

    My goodness man, you've got a nice one and should be proud of what you've got.

    I don't know what it is with us guys. Size does matter (to us) and I've wanted to trade mine for many years. Oh well, we get what we get and as long as it works, I guess we better be happy.
  • Jun 16, 2009, 09:58 AM
    spitvenom

    I have never had this problem. I just figure I am what I am. And I have never had any complaints so I guess I never thought about it I don't have a tape measure but isn't 5.5 in in girth like a COKE CAN or something?? That's pretty big.
  • Jun 16, 2009, 10:01 AM
    nikosmom
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by spitvenom View Post
    ... but isn't 5.5 in in girth like a COKE CAN or something?!?!?! Thats pretty big.
    5.5"- That's more akin to a kielbasa or something. Not 5.5" in diameter!:p
  • Jun 16, 2009, 10:15 AM
    kp2171
    As NK said, 5.5 around (circumference) isn't the same as 5.5 diameter. ;)

    To the OP'er... there is no "one answer fits all"... your wife seems happy. Run with it.

    We've had AMHD members here who stated they hated a bigger guy ramming into her cervix, while other women enjoyed it... their minds could translate that sensation into pleasure instead of pain.

    So... the woman you love says you are perfect and seems to enjoy sex and seems to get to the big O often.

    Buddy... unless your dream is to be a porn star, I think you've got a great life in the bedroom. Don't muck it up with self doubts that have absolutely no basis.
  • Jun 16, 2009, 10:22 AM
    Alty

    Porn isn't reality, don't compare yourself to them. Camera angles, touchups, that's what makes a porn star. The real world doesn't come with an editor.

    You're above average in size, not that it should matter. I've been with both ends of the spectrum, below average to well above. It's not the size of the stick, it's how you use it that counts.

    Stop obsessing about something you can't change anyway.

    Have fun.
  • Jun 16, 2009, 10:39 AM
    bronzebabe

    It sounds fine, actually.
    Don't compare yourself to others, it will make you feel bad about yourself, and it won't help you.
    Understand that your wife is fine, and so are you.
  • Jun 16, 2009, 11:58 AM
    lighterrr

    Your wife is happy and so should you, size does not matter my preference is small to medium men, I find it more enjoyable and fulfilling.
  • Jun 16, 2009, 12:05 PM
    88sunflower
    As long as she is happy and it sounds as though she is, who cares! Its like a women stressing over the size of her boobs. Just be happy with it and use it like a pro!
  • Jun 20, 2009, 10:18 PM
    lilmommakris
    If you read in books on human sexuality, it will tell oyu that the only part of a woman's vagina that has specific feeling, is the first third. When the vagina is relaxed it is only about three inches deep, and once it becomes aroused, it deepens through a process called tenting, and it expands approximately 2 inches. So in either case your size would be considered to be MORE THAN ENOUGH to fully satisfy her needs, besides, if she is happy and you both enjoy yourselves, who cares about size? Love your wife, and be happy- relax!:)
  • Jun 22, 2009, 01:37 AM
    Gemini54
    Porn movies are fantasy - the guys are chosen because they have huge schlongs and because they can stay hard for hours. It's their profession.

    You're just a normal dude, I gather, not a porn star, so why would you be comparing yourself to them? Why does your size matter so much to you anyway?

    Get into the real world and worry about something important - like the financial crisis, the starving children in Africa or global warming.

    Life's too short - enjoy what you have and the person you're with!
  • Jun 22, 2009, 04:04 AM
    shazamataz

    I watch porn and cringe most of the time. A penis the size of the men in those movies scares me.
  • Jun 22, 2009, 07:41 AM
    smoothy
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by bigdaddyfk33 View Post
    OK, my wife says I am obsessed with my penis size, this is probably true. I just can't seem to stop thinking about it though. When we watch porn, the guys in the movies seem so much bigger than I am. Maybe I am making a poor comparison.

    My wife says that I am the perfect size and the perfect fit, she seems to orgasm and really enjoy our lovemaking as do I. I am 6.25 in length and 5.5 in girth, but it just doesn't seem big enough to me. Sometimes I think my wife just says it's perfect so it doesn't hurt my feelings. I know she has been with much bigger guys and that bothers me a lot! she says the bigger ones really hurt so, maybe she is telling me the truth.

    Any advise on penis size? What is enough? Love to hear from the ladies on this one
    Guys in Porn movies ARE bigger than average. Fact is if she is happy, then you are big enough.

    Like the old saying goes. Its not the size of the ship, but the motion of the ocean that matters.

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