I've been with my guy for 6 months, and we've lived together for those 6 months. (That's another story that isn't important). He has a few qualities that I really like in a man and are rare and I think I will measure my future men against his kissing and his body etc. However, he is vindictive, hypocritical, judgemental, depressed, self righteous, angry, and has no libido. He got me to point where I don't say anything for fear of being judged or shot down or yelled at. He ahs been free laoding off me for these 6 months. The slightist bit of affection makes me so grateful for that one tidbit and I crave so much more but don't get it. He would know I was cooking dinner... for him... but not come because he would rather stay wihth him friends. Now it sounds like, why was I with him at all? He was still considerate when he thought to be, once in while. When he was affectionate he was really affectionat to the point where I wold love him for that moment and think yes! He is wonderful. There were good qualities that made me want him. Now that I came to my breaking point, on a scale of 1-10, I was content on a level of 1. if not zero. 10 of course being the highest rate of happiness and contentness. So now htat I have given him the boot, why do I hurt so much. Why do I have all this anxiety and fear. I know he is no good and I know I will not get what I want and need for him so why do I think a magic fairy will come and make him into what I want? Why can my heart not accept the facts as they are? I feel ill for breaking it off, why do I want the pain of staying in a relationship with him?

You deserved a mile when you were given an inch. You created what you wanted him to be in your head. And when you finally realized he was no good, you kicked him to the curb. You miss the idea of that dream man you thought he could be. It'll take time to get over, but just know that you deserve so much more. A break-up is a break-up whether it was a good relationship or a bad one, it still hurts. You have to learn from this experience.

When I'm asked what I look for in a guy, I can't usually answer... but I can always tell you what I DON'T want..

Good luck to you, and I empathize with you.

Will the cute frog turn into a charming prince if you kiss him? Unlikely. But you will find your prince one day.

You were never in love with this guy but in love with the fact you were with him , big difference.

It's normal to feel a sense of loss so don't beat yourself up about it. Sounds to me your far better off without him in your life and in time you'll realise that too and look back and smile.

Chin up ;)

It seems to me like you invited a cute guy to live with you for free in hopes that he would turn into your prince charming boyfriend.

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I've been with my guy for 6 months, and we've lived together for those 6 months. (That's another story that isn't important).

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You may not think that jumping into living with this guy was not an important story, but it is. You had strong feelings and high hopes you acted on and it didn't work, because of all the problems you had. You got so attached so fast following your heart that now that its over, your heart needs a lot of time to catch up with your brain.

I hope you give your heart the time it needs to heal. It needs plenty.