Going from bliss to blah in a matter of a few hours.what happened?
I'm newly divorced and haven't really been interested in any of the guys that have approached me. However, I went to a party a couple of months ago and saw this guy. We barely spoke but I couldn't get him out of my mind. A week ago my friend had a small get together and told this guy to come over because I was asking about him. He remembered me and had thought of me as well. We hit it off and spent the night together.. no sex... just heavy making out. Anyway we texted all day long and finally spoke on the phone for 5 hours. This happened everyday. There was never a lag in conversation and he couldn't believe how long our conversations were... and we never wanted to get off the phone but had to because of work. He would tell me how interested he was in me, how intriguing he thought I was, and how he loved speaking to me. I never knew I could mesh so well with someone... the chemistry was great.
So we went out the other night. I haven't dated in so long. After being in a troublesome marriage for so long, I forgot how to. He asked me what I wanted to do and I said, "I don't know". Having to think of something made me feel uncomfortable. I wasn't sure to suggest the mundane tasks of dinner or dinner and a movie, or trying to sound exciting. He finally suggested some things to do which put me at ease. We both seemed to be having a great time... holding hands... kissing. Once again we spent the night making out... no sex. Every time I would move away from him he would grab me back to hug me and kiss me. He snuggled me all night long and wouldn't let me get away. It was wonderful to be held like that again. We slept in late and went out for lunch and then he dropped me back off at home.
Prior to the date his talking pattern with me from the past week was to text me immediately after he dropped me off or after we got off the phone. After hours of talking on the phone, he would text me for several minutes and did the same the prior weekend when he dropped me off back home. But this time... no text. And as the day went on, no contact of any sort. My stomach was rolling so I finally decided to text him and see how his day was going. It took him a while to respond and then when he did it was short and brief... not the same sort of tone as before. Later on in the night he finally did text me and asked me if I had done something that I needed to get done but it was short and not the same sort of tone he had before. My final text was.. "how was your day and did you catch up on any sleep." He didn't respond until the following morning with "just a bit".
I just don't understand what happened. The chemistry was perfect... I haven't been able to talk with someone like that since my first love. He seemed so interested and his actions led me to believe it as well. I keep trying to dissect the date. Was I too quiet? Did I appear boring when I couldn't suggest anything to do? How do you go from talking hours upon hours to nothing within a blink of an eye. I don't think I'm cut out for this dating stuff. It is too complicated and too much of a game. Anyway, does anyone have a clue as to what may have happened? :confused: