My husband and I have been married for almost 18 years and we have a 9 and 4 years old. My husband was never a very romantic or sexually intimate person! He has hardly ever initiated any intercourse! He does seems to be happy after words! We only have sex once in 2 moths or so. Part of the reason, he is very picky about the certain things and also he is quite busy! He likes the bed to be made in certain ways. He gets irritated, if I touch his bed sheet or touch his body at night! Of late, there have been a lot of tension both at work and at home for us and when I try to initiate any intimacy he calls me horny! I feel that is derogatory and hurts my feelings! He thinks I am too touchy and making a big deal out of it... any suggestions!

Have you all had counseling? It sounds as tho he has some real problems and he needs some help.