I am helping a close friend, really family, dying from pancreatic cancer. It is a horrible for him and so stressful for me. I try to come home to my own bed a couple times a week but I have an upstairs neighbor that has modified their floors to a hard surface in a 520 square foot studio condo directly over where I sleep. They have an obese, really huge bulldog that snores and bounces along the floor anytime of the day or night. I have written numerous letters, called the police but they said they cannot do anything. I have recorded the noise which can be louder than my TV. I have also heard the woman having sex with a man who tries to intimidate me. I own this condo and have been putting as much pressure on the HOA to help. I am threatening to sue. I have been here 18 years and if I sold now the place would be worthless as no one can sleep here.

Any ideas to convince this female above me to to stop? I am so stressed I think I will probably drop dead first.

This same situation happened to my family at a young age. The police did not help and neither did the association. In the end it came down to somebody having to move. It is extremely stressful I know and can be miserable especially when you have other stresses in your life. I know this probably doesn't help too much. We lived with it until they finally chose to move out, and from experience I can say it probably is not going to get better. We found success by threatening them that we woud publish what they were doing in the newspaper. That seemed to put an end to the obnoxcious behavior and resulted in them moving.