Sex to me is making love under the moonlight having a glass of wine. Looking into your partners eyes and seeing the spark in thos eyes . How can you tell that your partner really loves you and just not saying it I want to know if he see the sparkles in my eyes?:confused:

Ask him.

There is no 'sparkle' per say.
To me you just know when you are in love with each other, there is no defining moment or thing you can do.

My partner and I had been friends for about a year before we started dating, he told me he loved me on our second date... Most people will say that is far too early but it felt right for both of us and I could just tell that he meant it.
We have now been together over 3 years.

Do what Alty said, sit down and talk to him, ask him where he sees you both in 5 or 10 years time, if his grand plan involves you then he more than probably means it and knows that you do as well.

Does he treat you with respect? Do you FEEL loved? Does he offer you the last cookie? Does he wait for you before walking into the store? Does he hold your hand when you walk in the park? Is he a considerate lover? Does he make you feel like you're the only person in the world when you are talking? Is he SINCERE when he says he loves you? You should know by now, don't over analyze things, just enjoy the feeling of young love. There is nothing quite like it. Oh yeah, watch the wine consumption while you're naked in the back yard.

The best definition of "Love" I ever heard I put on every post here. Is that how you feel? Is that how he feels?

If you get two yes's invite me to your 50th anniversary party.

"Love is that condition in which the happiness and welfare of another becomes essential to your own"

I love this. That's awesome, says it all. Imagine him being gone. Close your eyes, imagine him dead. If you immediately feel like throwing up, then you know you really love him. If you just feel sad... then probably not so much. I do this with many people... its not morbid, I don't wish they were dead, it sjust a good way to establish your feelings.

Love is something you feel, not see.
You described sex as making love, drinking wine, and seeing sparkles. Some people think love is having sex.
Does he tell you he loves you when you're not having sex?