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  • Jun 12, 2009, 06:40 PM
    NiceGirl17
    If there are virgins out there
    Hi are there virgins out there who take there virginity seriously
  • Jun 12, 2009, 10:47 PM
    cogirl4now

    Yes I do
  • Jun 12, 2009, 10:50 PM
    Alty

    There are many teens on this site that are in no rush to give up their virginity.

    There are a lot of people in their twenties on this site that are still virgins, waiting for marriage or a serious relationship.
  • Jun 13, 2009, 06:27 AM
    shazamataz

    Virginity is something that should be closely guarded.
    I guarded mine until I was 18 and I was very happy that I waited.
    I don't care if a guy think I'm "frigid" for not giving myself to him. I respect myself more for waiting until I am ready.
  • Jun 13, 2009, 07:20 PM
    briannekayleen
    Absolutely. Stay a virgin... stand up for what is right
  • Jun 13, 2009, 07:25 PM
    JoeCanada76

    There is a new trend in today's world. Keeping your virginity as long as you can. Some people do not lose it until there late 20's and 30's.
  • Jun 13, 2009, 07:33 PM
    mudweiser

    There are many virgins out there. However, I don't think you should isolate yourself with only virgins, why not learn from other walks of life?

    I think teen abstinence is a great idea; most teens don't even know how to keep their underwear streak-free and think they can handle sex.

    Whether it's a religious thing, or the fact that you just want to save yourself for the one you love, or just fear of catching AIDS or an STD, or even pregnancy -- it's still a good choice to make when you feel unprepared for that type of responsibility.

    Sarah
  • Jun 14, 2009, 04:22 PM
    thegreygoose

    I really want to know if you look down upon people who have lost their virginity but who aren't married?
  • Jun 14, 2009, 04:26 PM
    Alty
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by thegreygoose View Post
    i really want to know if u look down upon ppl who have lost their virginity but who arent married?

    That's a good question.
  • Jun 14, 2009, 04:54 PM
    thegreygoose
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Altenweg View Post
    That's a good question.

    I just want to know because I'm 16 and I lost my virginity when I was 13...
    I'm not whitetrash or even a little sluty
  • Jun 14, 2009, 04:59 PM
    Alty
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by thegreygoose View Post
    i just want to know because im 16 and i lost my virginity when i was 13....
    im not whitetrash or even a little sluty

    13 is really young to make that kind of decision.

    Why did you think this was the right time for you?

    The reason why adults tell kids to wait is because they're kids, they really don't understand the very real consequences of sex. They live in a fairy tail world where everything is all love and roses, not reality and heartache.

    I was also a teen when I lost my virginity, so I speak from experience, learning things the hard way.

    If I could go back I'd have waited a while.
  • Jun 14, 2009, 05:43 PM
    number9forlife1

    Im a virgin but I don't really care if my best friend is or isn't anymore, that was there choice and I don't judge them.. but I do know that there are people out there, that judge you if you aren't a virgin depending on your age.. and then you get those people who judge you because you are a virgin... but I wouldn't care what people thought about me if I lost it or didn't...
  • Jun 14, 2009, 06:34 PM
    N0help4u

    Most people simply do not believe there is anybody that is a virgin past the age of 17. There are many though.

    There are organizations like reborn virgins or virgin clubs to meet people so you don't feel isolated like you are the only one.

    Reborn Virgin

    What is Silver Ring Thing?
  • Jun 14, 2009, 08:59 PM
    thegreygoose
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Altenweg View Post
    13 is really young to make that kind of decision.

    Why did you think this was the right time for you?

    The reason why adults tell kids to wait is because they're kids, they really don't understand the very real consequences of sex. They live in a fairy tail world where everything is all love and roses, not reality and heartache.

    I was also a teen when I lost my virginity, so I speak from experience, learning things the hard way.

    If I could go back I'd have waited a while.

    I used to regret it a lot but now that I think about it...
    It made me who I am...
    I'm a little harden, personality wise. Most people think I'm a but I just say how I feel most of the time
  • Jun 15, 2009, 06:44 AM
    shazamataz
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by thegreygoose View Post
    i used to regret it alot but now that i think about it...
    it made me who i am...
    im a little harden, personality wise. most ppl think im a but i just say how i feel most of the time

    My partner lost his when he was 13 also...
    He really regrets it.
    The girls he dated and slept with at school didn't really mean a lot and he wished he had waited for a relationship that was a bit more meaningful.
  • Jun 15, 2009, 09:01 AM
    kctiger

    I took mine seriously until I lost it...

    The deal is this. I waited a LONG time before I had sex. Sure, I messed around, but I have never considered sex something that you just do... to me, it meant something to share yourself like that with someone. Thus, I didn't want to lose my virginity for sake of "guy talk" and bar chatter, I wanted to do it when I thought it meant the most, and when I was ready to share that part of me.

    People who constantly worry about losing their virginity need to rethink things. We live in a society now that judges people by when they have, or haven't had sex for the first time, and to me, that isn't a fair way to judge anyone.
  • Jun 18, 2009, 11:47 PM
    ImInLoveWithHim

    im 13yrs old and i have already lost my virginity!! it totally sucks because all my friends right now arent as mature as i am...and they all are always asking me, "How does it feel?" "Were you scared?" I honestly can't take it anymore...so please keep your purity!! i regret ever losing mine
  • Jun 19, 2009, 01:27 PM
    Alty
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by ImInLoveWithHim View Post
    im 13yrs old and i have already lost my virginity!! it totally sucks because all my friends right now arent as mature as i am...and they all are always asking me, "How does it feel?" "Were you scared?" I honestly can't take it anymore...so please keep your purity!! i regret ever losing mine

    I just want to point out that having sex doesn't make you mature.

    I've never met a 13 year old that's emotionally, physically and financially ready to have sex. At 13 you're still a child, no matter how mature you think you are.
  • Jun 19, 2009, 01:50 PM
    spitvenom

    Hey that is awesome that you want to wait. I lost my virginity when I was 13. I Don't even remember the girls name something like Jen or Jess or something never saw her again after that. I just remember she was 16. Funny thing is I never told any of my friends until I was about 19.
  • Jun 19, 2009, 02:04 PM
    jenniepepsi

    I took my virginity serously. Unfortunately I didn't have a choice to keep it when I was raped when I was 11. However even after that, I still took my 'consentual virginity' seriously.

    Keep in mind that some girls don't have that choice.

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