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  • Jun 11, 2009, 11:25 AM
    ddcot
    Am I a bisexual or what?
    I have a girlfriend that we sometimes have sex and I have sexual feelings with her.
    But sometimes when I see pictures of other guys penises it turns me on I don't know why caz I'm getting more confused.:confused:

    The pictures only turns me on but I don't like or desire a guy to sleep with me in any way. Please anyone help me caz my heart is in fire I don't want to be a bi or gay I just want to stay straight.

    Any help is welcome I just want to remove this sexual feelings please.
    I am a 21 old guy
  • Jun 11, 2009, 11:28 AM
    88sunflower
    First would it be so wrong if you were gay? Sure society makes it harder and there will be hurdles along the way. But if it ends up gay so what. You need and can be happy and live a great life as a gay man. Maybe for some reason seeing pics of other penises turns you on because you want to experiment in the bedroom more. Maybe doing a couples thing? I don't know that's my first guess.
  • Jun 11, 2009, 11:31 AM
    88sunflower
    Maybe its just a phase. I am a woman and I am not afraid to say I have looked at other women and found them very attractive or sexy but I am not gay by any means.
  • Jun 11, 2009, 11:35 AM
    binx44

    The naked body be it a man or woman is a form of art.. maybe you are attracted to it in that aspect since you state you don't have the desire or want to move on those actions (which you shouldn't if you are in a relationship with someone because it would be cheating) I am bi sexual and I have known it since I was younger. I have dated women and men and am not biased towards either sex...
  • Jun 11, 2009, 11:39 AM
    scott_1976

    Many times it is the taboo part of the subject that is arousing. The fact that you are so scared of being gay/bi adds to the excitement. Any thing that others may consider taboo can make something very exciting. I don't think your gay or bi..
  • Jun 11, 2009, 03:27 PM
    jenniepepsi

    It could be that seeing a penis arouses the idea of having sex (with your girlfriend, or what have you) there isn't anything wrong with this, and it certainly doesn't make you gay. I can look at my husbands porn magazines and get turned on by the girls in it and I'm not gay
  • Jun 13, 2009, 06:25 AM
    shazamataz

    Unless you actually want to engage in sexual activity with the opposite sex I wouldn't say you were Bi-Sexual.
    I wouldn't consider myself Bisexual but I can still watch porn or see pictures of naked women and get turned on.
    It's a naked body... more importantly, it's the specific genitals of a naked man... I would say it is more of curiosity than being bisexual but that's just me :)
  • Jun 14, 2009, 07:43 AM
    Catsmine
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by ddcot View Post
    I dont want to be a bi or gay I just want to stay straight.

    Any help is welcome I just want to remove this sexual feelings please.

    "Want to be" and "don't want to be" are your fears and insecurities talking. If you try being YOU instead of bi-you or straight you or gay you then you don't have to worry about it.

    Do pictures of breasts excite you as much as the other ones?

    Do pictures of men embracing excite you? Women?

    2 yes answers means you simply like porn, just like most males do.
  • Jun 17, 2009, 07:39 PM
    feellikeafreak
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by scott_1976 View Post
    Many times it is the taboo part of the subject that is arousing. The fact that you are so scared of being gay/bi adds to the excitement. Any thing that others may consider taboo can make something very exciting. I don't think your gay or bi..

    I have experienced the samething and am very uncomfortable with it. No way is it a phase IMO. I have plenty of other intamacy issues. But all I can say is that your not allown, and the answer wuoted above is the most logical.
    Also I at 32yrs old identify with strong males because I didn't have a strong healthy male role model growing up, you should think back to your childhood and see if you have any similarities.
  • Jun 17, 2009, 07:55 PM
    Fr_Chuck

    First yes, there are phases and it cold well be one

    But again I don't want to be limp and walk with a cane but I do and can't change that.

    Above all you are, what you are.

    If you want to have sex with another man you are gay, if you want to have sex with both you are bi, if you want to have sex with everyone at the same time, you most likely living in the apartment below me.

    But in the end ( no pun) you are what you are, and only you know what that is.
  • Jun 22, 2009, 07:39 AM
    smoothy
    Yo uare just bi-curious at this point. Until you have made that leap to actually play with another guys penis (and like it) which is what it would take to be bisexual.
  • Jun 22, 2009, 08:31 AM
    slapshot_oi

    If you think you can and want to sustain a relationship with another guy then you are gay, otherwise you're not.

    Also, you don't just wake up gay, you would have known for a while by now, usually when you hit puberty.

    Sex is it's own thing and people get turned on by some of the strangest stuff. And the internet allows people to live-out their wildest fantasies.
  • Jun 22, 2009, 11:26 PM
    Rushed19

    There is nothing wrong with these feelings! I'm younger than you but, I sometimes see women and get turned on, and I think its because I think of myself in their position, anything sexual is supposed to be stimulating... I think its natural to be curious, and if you are gay great! And if you aren't that's great too! Just be who you are, and don't be scared of admitting it

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