Girlfriend broke up with me, moved back home with family and wants to figure things
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My girlfriend and I just recently broke up. I am 25 and she is 23. We met in college as I was finishing up my college career. We were friends for a bit before we got romantically involved. At first I did not want anything serious since I was figuring out my life after graduating, wanted to find a job and what not. In a way she was doing all the chasing. As I got my life in place and landed a job, I then started falling in love with her. We made things official and our relationship was fantastic, her family loved me (who she is extremely close to) and things were great. During this time, she was still in college as she was finishing up her degree. I moved away about an hour away from the college so she would come see me just about everyweekend for about a year and 3 months. She did not like being in school and felt lonely in campus, so being by my place on the weekends was great because we did fun things and she was happy by my side.
About 10 months into our relatinship we got a dog together. We decided to do so since we were pretty close and I felt like we were going to be together for a long time. Plus the puppy could keep her company at school until she finished up. Things continued to be fine, I always felt loved and yeah we had our little arguments here and there just like any other relationship but nothing major. We went to California for her birthday and had a wonderful time. She finished up her semester and had to move back home for good. She still has one more semester and will be commuting from home. Things were still good but I began to notice that while she was at home busy with her family she had less time to talk to me, which I was fine with. She is very close to her family and I understood.
About 2 weeks ago, one night I noticed there was something wrong with her. I asked and asked, told me that she was worried about getting a job since she had been applying everywhere but no luck... and finally she told me that she didn't know about us anymore. She said she is currently happy being around her family and that she doesn't feel lonely anymore, and felt like she didn't need a boyfriend. She said she feels differently about me and that she had been thinking about it for about a month but did not what to do about it. Couple days went by of arguing and trying to reason with her but I was getting nowhere.
She concluded that right now she does not want to be with anybody and that she wants to focus on finding a job (by the way I made a couple phone calls and now she has a job) She feels that she missed out on her family being away in college and right now is having a great time with them. She said she wants to by herself and figure her life out. She has no money right now and lots of bills and although she is living her family she still takes care of her own bills.. It is obvious that she has a lot of things going on right now. She has also been the type of girl that always had a boyfriend and says that she wants time to herself.
We met up couple days ago to take our pup to the vet, and after we went to dinner and had some drinks. We talked about things and she said she is currently happy with her decision, she has been spending time her family and likes being there for her two young sibilings. I told her that I understand how she feels and that I respect her decision because we all have to get our life together at some point of our lives. I asked her to please let me know if she chnages her mind about us and that we would talk then about things.We had a great time together and we were laughing and being "us" how we were before the break up.
In the past couple days I have been hcatting with her through Facebook whenever she is on about things regarding out dog and her job. Yesterday she kind of lashed out at me and told me that she feels that I am still taking to her as if we are dating, through Facebook and some texts and that I am not giving her the space she needs. Said she is starting to get frustrated... What do I do now people? Is this over? We were together for a year and 3 months and yes I do have my life together and have a job... is there any chance of getting back together? Am I screwed because I was contacting her through Facebook chat... please help, I have not been doing well at all... Thank you