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  • Jun 10, 2009, 10:47 PM
    shorty24
    Does he want me or not?
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    How should I be more confident around my guy? We haven't been together very long but I feel like things aren't going the right way anymore because of my confidence. What should I do?

    Me and "my guy" are together but not together... like we do everything people in relationships do but we're not officially boyfriend/girlfriend. How do I know if he's being real with me? Shouldn't he have asked me to be his girlfriend by now? How do I handle this?
  • Jun 10, 2009, 11:09 PM
    Nestorian

    Ever read/watched, "He's just not that into you?"

    If he isn't willing to take that step, and commit. Then he's just not that into you. Sorry if it sucks.

    Don't be afraid to tell him you want to date and call him your BF, and him to say that you are his GF, Because you are worth it, and respect yourself, thus expect him to too.

    If it goes ill, then remember, Love yourself, forgive yourself, respct yourself, know yourself, and be yourself. That way, when you are looking for your soul mate, you'll know who you are allowing you to not only know what you like, want, value in a soul mate but also can be what your soul mate wants. Find yourself and you shall find life.

    Peace and kindness.
  • Jun 11, 2009, 02:03 AM
    Gemini54
    I'm not sure what you're worried about. Do people ask each other to be BF/GF these days?

    He likes you, you get on well, you have a relationship - it all sounds good to me.

    If it's all going well and it's like a BF/GF relationship, then what exactly do you want him to do? You know he's being 'real' by the way he treats you. If he's treating you well, enjoy it.

    Perhaps you can go somewhere nice and suggest to him that it's to celebrate your BF/GF relationship. YOU can declare if officially. Why not?
  • Jun 11, 2009, 01:50 PM
    h_leann_b

    Well to be honest this is not a lot of information to go off... What problems are you having that are a direct cause of you not being confident enough? Are you referring to in the bedroom or just everyday life?

    Confidence comes from within. You have to love yourself. You could do an exercise like listing all of your qualities.. reasons people love you. Maybe write down compliments you recieve; keep track of things like that. But as much as people think you are great; you have to get it in your mind that you are too.
  • Jun 12, 2009, 11:04 AM
    ChaNelLuver

    If you really like him why don't you just ask him where you guys stand in your relationship. If he gets mad or freaked out or whatever he doesn't deserve you and isn't worth all the stress.
  • Jun 12, 2009, 11:16 AM
    nikosmom

    How long have you been seeing him? Do you know if he's dating other girls as well? Talk to him about where the relationship is going if you're ready for more. Communication is a key element in a good relationship so you must be able to talk about your feelings. Better to find out now where you stand than to put time into something that isn't going anywhere.
  • Jun 12, 2009, 07:41 PM
    talaniman
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    Shorty24, how should I be more confident around my guy? We haven't been together very long but I feel like things aren't going the right way anymore because of my confidence. What should I do?
    Stop worrying about your confidence and pay attention and get to know him so you can be comfortable with him.
    Quote:

    Me and "my guy" are together but not together... like we do everything people in relationships do but we're not officially boyfriend/girlfriend. How do I know if he's being real with me? Shouldn't he have asked me to be his girlfriend by now? How do I handle this?
    Stop acting like a couple and give him something to shoot for. If you act like a couple now, why change things? See him less and he will try to see you more, if he is interested.

    How old are you two and how long has this been going on?

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