My husband isn't sexually attracted to me
My husband and I have been married for only two months. I'm afraid that a problem that has always effected our relationship (but one that we've worked hard to correct) is going to be the cause of our divorce... You see... my husband has had erectile disfunction since the first time we attempted to sleep together. I was willing to work with this issue, because he is perfect otherwise. I persuaded him to see a urologist, which he did, and he was given a prescription for Viagra.
The problem is, that up until the other night, I thought that he had a form of sex anxiety. The Urologist told us that after a few months of taking Viagra and having success, my husband would gain confidence and the anxiety would go away. Well, unfortunately, that isn't the case. We've had numerous unsuccessful attempts even with Viagra. He doesn't even get turned on when I touch him. The other night, I asked him to seek counseling. He was very reluctant and when I asked why, he said that he's afraid that he just isn't sexually attracted to me. This was a hard blow and I'm not sure how to react to it. Why then did he marry me if he's not sexually attracted to me?
I asked him if maybe he just loves me as a friend, but he countered by explaining that he loves me more than he's ever loved anybody before. This would normally make me feel better, except that I was his first... I just don't know what to think of all of this... It's quite a blow, but after all the trouble we've been having in the bedroom, I finally think we might be getting to the bottom of the issue.
So, here's my question: If my husband isn't sexually attracted to me, never was sexually attracted to me, what then should be my course of action? I know that I will never be happy in a relationship that is void of sex and I'm surely not going to force him to do something (if he can) that he doesn't really want to do. I feel like he's been dishonest with me and that our whole relationship has been a lie. It feels false, do you know what I mean? I need some advice... please help.