I am so sick of our neighbor. Every time that we are outside, she yells across the yard at us, comes over, yells at us from her deck every time we're grilling out, etc. I have said numerous things to her about it, but she persists. Also, she copies all of our landscaping, and it gets so old. She is loud, obnoxious, invasive and just rude. Any advise would be greatly appreciated. I am beyond upset and have tried to be nice to no avail. She just does not get it. Please help.

If she steps foot on your property tell her you will call the police and have her arrested for trespassing.

She sounds lonely, but that doesn't mean that you have to put up with this.

I'd sit down with her, tell her that you need your space, would like to be able to go outside without her constantly yelling and coming over uninvited.

If she keeps on doing it after that, and you don't care whether you have a good relationship with her, then I'd get a bit mean. Nothing physical, but, if she comes over I'd tell her to leave, if she refuses then call the cops.

You have a right to be able to enjoy the outdoors on your property.

Good luck.

I agree with Altenweg that the lady sounds like she's pretty lonely and is craving the company... which just happens to be you.

You've already talked with her about it, but I think you need to sit her down and be a little bit more forceful in what you want when telling her that this constant coming over uninvited and yelling has to stop.
You can just tell her a make it believable when you say it, that if it continues she will no be a welcome guest at your home anymore.

But what you shouldn't do is make enemies of your neighbors because some can get really vicious and weird, so just be nice but forceful.

Or you can go out and buy a really vicious Rottwieller and that should solve your problem to. :)

Sorry, missed some words, my keys stick sometimes.

I used to have this same problem. I erected a six foot tall "privacy" fence around my yard. Now I have complete privacy back there- it's made a huge difference in the quality of my life. I no longer have to view their trash strewn premises!

My husband and I have neighbors 2 houses down that just stand in their yard and stare into ours. They're not even trying to be nonchalant. It's completely obvious. Too be honest they kind of creep us out, our 6' privacy fence project began yesterday. You should see them stare now.

Beyond direct interaction with her on the issue, you could try planting larger growing plants or trees on the side of the fence that faces her yard. There are different types of bamboo that you could plant that grow rather quickly and spread branches and leaves that can provide a great deal of shading. It can often be purchased at a rather modest price, as well (especially when compared to the cost of purchasing grown trees). At my house, I use this to maintain privacy with my neighbor to the rear of my property. Also, mixed in with other plants near a fence, bamboo can be very attractive in a yard. It could look something like this: http://outdoorlivingdreams.com/files/backyard30.jpg

Some people really have serious boundary issues and you just can't expect them to take subtle hints.They just don't get it.

I would tell her "I don't mean to be rude but (hubbys name) and I really would appreciate it if we could have some more privacy".

"Please don't come over unless we invite you.Thank-you for understanding".

You could add ,its not personal, its just that you are very private people.

I would look into getting a" Big dog"