Hey all,
Recently, a guy I was seeing broke NC after about 2 months. We were never official, but ended things after I confessed my feelings had gotten strong and he didn't feel the same way. I was doing sooooooooo well - no calls, texts, seeing each other, nothing. And he comes out of the cold blue one day, contacts me and here I am a huge effin' mess all over once more.
I won't lie, my heart leapt as I caught sight of the e-mail after 2 months - it was the innocent "hey, how's it goin'" banter. We then began chatting a little more online, small talk conversation about how things have been lately and whatnot. It then turns more into him complimenting me and slowly into him asking when we're going to hang out again. He also mentions that he thinks of visiting me from time to time because my work is on the way home from his work. Claims he doesn't want to bother me though, and that it may not be a good idea if he did see me because he may develop "crazy urges" all over. Didn't think much of it.
A few days later we're chatting again and not even two minutes into conversation he asks about my dating life and of course it's non-existent as I've been trying desperately to mend myself. (of course I did not tell him the latter) I just told him nothing's been going on in the dating life, not really interested in anyone in particular. I shared a story about a date-gone-wrong and he of course asks about the specifics. I found it a little odd he became so interested but long story short, it basically turned into how I still had feelings for him.
He of course can't understand why I feel the way I do towards him. Then he continues to tell me I'm honestly, one of the most amazing girls he's ever met. (right, FUEL the fire why don't you?) He continues to tell me no one he knows is good enough for me otherwise he would be introducing me to someone, but what's stopping him is this reason and ALSO that he'd be jealous.
Confused, I should have called him out on that but I didn't. He continues to tell me that he'd love to have me in his life but that he just can't keep himself away from me.. he also brings up the fact that we did have some good times back when we were 'seeing' each other. He made it clear he enjoyed it very much. He also sneaks in the very end of our conversation, "i dunno, maybe we'll try it again sometime, who knows"
Fast forward a few days. I ran into him by chance on my way to work, and we locked eyes instantly. My heart was beating a thousand times a second. We ended up chatting a little before going on our ways - but the whole time I could feel a little tension between us. Not the bad kind, but it was nervous energy... I'd catch him stealing glances at me (we were sitting side by side) and he'd fidget a lot. Small convesation again, a little more catching up - I think we were both just shocked that we had run into each other all this time. Again, he mentions something about getting together to hang.
I believe he is seeing someone currently. Why is he acting this way towards me? Why after 2 months does he have to stir up my emotions again? And why is he talking to me the way he does! The jealousy thing is really bothering me as well... if he is dating someone, he should not be jealous about me with another guy.
Someone please tell me what IS his deal?