I have lost my Partner in Crime!
Going to keep this is as short as possible with as many details as possible! My boyfriend of over 2 years has "disappeared" and been replaced with this heinous creature! Literally! I personally think he is depressed, he doesn't sleep at night, he doesn't eat ever, he seems to want to be alone all the time and it is crushing my feelings. Here is a quick background... I will admit his life did suck for a while, he had been unemployed which put us in debt, he was really upset with himself about it. Then he got a great job in March (still has it) and also finally made it on a semi-pro baseball team. He was thrilled.. getting caught up on child support (from a previous relationship), getting bills taken care of, we moved back in together, started to working-out, kept saying how great he felt physically too! Then BOOM---- I don't know what happened... he is hateful, mean, short with me, distant and a real Grade-A Jerk! That's most of the time, every now and then I can see the man I love in there! I think he is stressed because we are playing catch up, and we just keep coming up short. But he has never acted this way before, he tells me that he doesn't understand why I stay when he treats me like this, but he thanks me for it. He says he needs me because I take care of him and he would be lost without me. He says that he wouldn't stay around if someone was treating him this way. He has stopped saying I love you, he doesn't kiss me at all anymore. We were kicking around the idea of getting married in October 2010, we had looked at rings, picked out colors, etc. But now he never mentions it, ever and if I do he changes the subject real quick! He never wants to talk about it, if I do he tells me I am nagging him and to just drop it. I am getting to my breaking point with him. My feelings are hurt everyday, he apologizes sometimes and you can tell he really means it, of course those are the good days! I adore this man, and it used to be the same for him, but I just don't know anymore. Tonight, he wants to go to the movies by himself! So my question is... where does this leave me? What do I do? I would have no problem staying with him and giving him his space if I knew there was a light at the end of the tunnel. So in the words of "The Clash" Should I Stay or Should I Go?