My girlfriend recently told me she needed space and we have reconciled, my question is: while I feel great, I don't know if this was another hiccup, or an omen.
Basically, I went to a bbq with friends while being sick, and I told her I was going to a bbq and she suggested I stay home and rest (we had no plans because she had the 2nd shift at work) and I told her I would be fine and went anyway. The bbq went well and I recovered fine the next morning. I texted her the next day a few times and never got a response, so knowing what time she would go to work (knowing that she likes to call me during her commute) I noticed she was taking longer than usual and called her and she answered, what do you want , etc. basically telling me she was mad and didn't want to talk to me. Frustrated I didn't bother contacting her the rest of the day (figured it was a vintage tantrum of hers) The next day I simply texted her to ask if she still had a notebook of mine and she responded she did, and I resisted the temptation to ask if she was still mad (seems to anger her more when I ask) and I decided to go to sleep rather than call her and get another rude response like the day before. The next day, I was even more frustrated that she hadn't contacted me as usual and decided I wouldn't concede and apologize for spending time with friends (I have in the past) two days later, I contacted her and she told me she was still angry I ignored her and I told her I took her response (about being sick) as a suggestion and decided I would feel fine (which I did) and she told me it wasn't a suggestion (which I thought would make it a demand which did not sit well with me) so I argued with her until she told me she would talk to me later (she was busy, it was about midday) and she later texted me she wasn't angry anymore but still didn't want to talk to me. I felt that she was being petulant and didn't contact her (as her request) exactly one week to the day of the bbq I called her, (3 days after her request not to talk) and asked her what was going on and she was initially coy but confessed she had decided to read a book series and wanted to finish the series before her interest faded (shes not much of a reader) I was completely perplexed but decided to go with it and I asked her how much time she needed and she replied another week. She also said if I wanted, we could talk for ten minutes a day until the week went by to which I immediately scoffed and took as an insult, but I eventually accepted. The next day, she called me while I was still at work and left me a voicemail in which she said I had missed out on my ten minutes for the day, I called her back and she didn't pick up and I didn't try again and she never called me back. The next day, I called her and she didn't pick up and I texted her after she hadn't called me back and she replied that she would call me later and never did. So I decided to not bother contacting her. She texted me two days later asking if I wanted to use my ten minutes for that day and I simply texted back no. finally, when the week was up I called her and she didn't pick up, but this time she called me back and asked what I wanted, I told her the week we had agreed on was up and I felt that we need to get together and have a talk and she remained coy and silly throughout the whole phone talk. Eventually, we agreed to meet and when to the movies together and it actually went really well we discussed the time we had spent apart and how she felt she need to be left alone and we settled the issue, until I mentioned I still was hosting a party (we had talked about it a month before) and I had picked a day (it happened to be in a week) and a time and a place and she actually become frustrated that I hadn't kept her in the loop and she had made plans. I basically told her she had made herself unavailable and I didn't understand how I would have mentioned it to her under those conditions. For the next 2 days, our communication returned completely back to normal but I found her trying to pick fights whenever I would tell her about the party, to which I responded, if your going to try to argue with me I'm going to simply end the conversation and try to talk to you tomorrow. The next time we were able to hang out, the date went really well and everything is back to normal, she even canceled her plans and told her friends to come to the party instead. The party is tomorrow, but I have no idea what to make of the whole tumultuous time that past, I feel like it's a forgive and forget moment, but I don't know if I should or what mistakes to correct to avoid situations like that again.
