All right let me preface this by saying for the most part, I have a great relationship with an awesome guy. We've been dating for 1.5 years now and he's just awesome. We both have separate houses (we live 5 min from eachother) and often hang out every night or so. He has a few close friends who he tends to hang out with all the time, and lately I've been hanging out with them even when he's not around. He's starting to get a little frustrated with me because he likes "having his own friends". For some reason he thinks we're going to break up and have to "divide our friends" someday... which is somewhat disheartening but he tends to think more logically about things so I can see his point. He probably is a little insecure and thinks some of his really close friends will end up being better friends with me than him. I get it. So my first question would be- is it bad to be good friends with your bf/gf's friends, to the point where you hang out with them outside of your bf/gf sometimes?
Also, to relate to the above concern... I don't have a lot of close friends here... I'm not the type of person that has a lot of "aquaintences"... I like to have a few very close friends and that's it. 2 of my closest friends have left the area, so I'm down to one at the moment. This one friend is going through a rough time right now and hasn't really been in the "mood" to hang out and things of that nature. So I'm left to my own devices when it comes to spending "non-boyfriend" quality time. I've noticed I'm headed down a bad path and I always leave my options open when it comes to hanging out with my boyfriend. I always see if he wants to hang out, and if he doesn't I THEN try to figure out what I'm going to do... sounds pathetic, I know. We had a little argument the other day and he indicated that I'm "extra needy". The strange part is I've actually made more of an effort to do things on my own more often... I hang out at my house instead of his, we only spend the night together maybe 2-3 times a week, etc.
He thinks we spend too much time together and are attached to the hip. Frankly I don't see it. I enjoy hanging out with him, even if we're not doing anything besides watching TV together. I think he feels this enormous pressure to "entertain" me when I'm over there for some reason. I think my problem (I probably have more than one haha) is that I overthink everything and I'm trying too hard. I'm being too lax with myself and worrying too much about him... and I believe it's doing more harm than good because it probably makes me look insecure and weak in a way. I apologize for the novel haha.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated... thanks!