Im 17 now and have around like 8 relationships over my high school years. None lasting to long. Reason being is that I'm extremely shy when it comes to girls I don't know as a friend or something. Like I can't even really have a flowing conversation with them. So I guess my question is how do I become more confident in myself. Ive tried looking at other ways guys talk to girls and stuff but for me I just chicken out and decided not to. So if you have any information that would help me that would be great.

What are your interest?

Try finding someone to connect with around places that you like!
Don't be so shy... dont think about it so much!
Be confident!! Girls like that!

That's my problem though after my first time "asking somone out" I was rejected and humilated in front of like 25 people in 8th grade and ever since then even though the fact that everyonethat saw it forgot about it the next day. For some reason it still sticks with me and I always think of that before I go to talk to someone. Which is why I always over think it and then just decided not to... ;/

Just relax and be yourself. Realize that they're only human as well, just like you. Talk to them the same way you talk to your male friends ; just without the "machoness" if you do that when interacting with your male friends. Talk about ordinary things ; school, extracurricular activities, family life, favorite movies, etc. A little bit of practice will go a long way in boosting your confidence and sharpening your conversational skills.

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Originally Posted by muhalla

Thats my problem though after my first time "asking somone out" I was rejected and humilated in front of like 25 people in 8th grade and ever since then even though the fact that everyonethat saw it forgot about it the next day. For some reason it still sticks with me and I always think of that before I go to talk to someone. Which is why I always over think it and then just decided not to....;/

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That was a mistake right there ; never ask a girl out in front of a crowd. Do it in private. If necessary, get her phone number and call her.

Your probably so focus on yourself and your own insecurities that you don't know that the girls are just as shy and insecure for the most part. Keep trying practice makes perfect.

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Originally Posted by muhalla

Im 17 now and have around like 8 relationships over my high school years. None lasting to long. Reason being is that im extremely shy when it comes to girls I dont know as a friend or something. Like I can't even really have a flowing conversation with them. So I guess my question is how do I become more confident in myself. Ive tried looking at other ways guys talk to girls and stuff but for me I just chicken out and decided not to. So if you have any information that would help me that would be great.

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Don't try to think of it as your going to date her think of it as friends.. to talk them like you would any other friends you have.. and this is something to remember that if you don't feel good about yourself your attitude is going to come out shy or not confident enough to express yourself,, remember every thing starts with yourself, on how you feel, its going to show when your words com out... girls like guys who are outgoing know what they want.. even though you are not picky make them think that you are, so that way when you are talking to them they feel special that you are talking to them period.. lol.. because you are picky,, and there is nothing wrong with being all of that and much more,. lol GOOD LUCK..