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What should I do I'm in a family where some of my family has been christened but they don't go to church and I'm a christian myself and I go to church but I'm finding it difficult at home I'm crying nearly every day over things they say to me and everything but also I don't want to runaway or anything because the bible says god put you in that situation and you should stay there I'm finding it difficult as to why I've been put into that situation I think that's the hardest thing.

Ugh... I was raised in a religious home, and I think that it is important for you to know it is okay to be who you want. I was in a similar situation to yours, and u know what I did? I chopped off all my hair, left home, got body piercings, and labeled myself an atheist. Hope that helps- my family don't get to me anymore now.. lol!

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What should i do i'm in a family where some of my family has been christened but they don't go to church and i'm a christian myself and i go to church but i'm finding it difficult at home i'm crying nearly every day over things they say to me and everything but also i don't want to runaway or anything because the bible says god put you in that situation and you should stay there i'm finding it difficult as to why i've been put into that situation i think thats the hardest thing.

Perhaps you should worry less about why you are in the situation, and focus on accepting things as they come and go. I know it's hard to hear what others have to say, as they can be insensitive, and even self destructive; but, that is for them to figure out. You can do any number of things with yourself, so don't take it for granted or ignore the possibilites and focus on one idea.

If you are Christen, then pray. Pray for Peace of mind, and strength. Pray for those who hurt you to find Love and kindness within. That is your religion after all, is it not? Let go of finding the answer to why you are s'pose to be in a given situation and embrace being at peace with it. This will take time, and practice practice, but you will get it if you persever.

MAy peace and kindness be with you.

Please know that even with strong faith, people can have bad behaviors, bad habits, bad skills. So a person can truly view themselves as Christian, or Jewish, or whatever their chosen faith and still not live up to the teachings of that faith. It's a struggle, life-long for most of us, to live our values and beliefs fully.

Also know that faith does not fix everything. It can support the things we actively work on using our God-given talents and abilities and resources, but we do have to take responsibility to solve our problems here in the day-to-day world. Prayer can help us do that and Faith can help us through those times when we feel like nothing will get better.

Running away can be really dangerous so please don't do that. As for what you can do though, please tell more of what is going on, how old you are, what exactly is happening that is making you so sad. A lot of people on this site give just amazing advice and I think if more was understood about your situation, could help you a lot.

Take care of yourself - things do get better.

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Originally Posted by me and tink

What should i do i'm in a family where some of my family has been christened but they don't go to church and i'm a christian myself and i go to church but i'm finding it difficult at home i'm crying nearly every day over things they say to me and everything but also i don't want to runaway or anything because the bible says god put you in that situation and you should stay there i'm finding it difficult as to why i've been put into that situation i think thats the hardest thing.

Being christened does not make one a Christian. As was said as well, being a Christian, or a follower of any other faith, does not mean you won't mess up. I'm not sure where in the Bible you read that God put you in that situation so you have to stay there? However, running away is rarely the answer unless you were in true danger. Have you spoken to them about how their comments make you feel? Have you asked them to stop making these comments when around you? If they still don't listen, maybe ask them why they seem to feel the need to be disrespectful towards you.

Not knowing what they are saying that is upsetting you so, it is difficult to know how much may truly be what they are saying or maybe how you are perceiving things.

Perhaps you are in your current situation in hopes that at some point a seed of faith will be planted for another member of the family. It may not even be while you are living at home... it may not take root until years from now. Perhaps you are in the situation so that you can realize just how strong you are, what you are capable of managing, and how your faith will be strengthened because of it.

Surround yourself with friends, do your best to stand strong in what you believe even when faced with negative comments, focus on the good you can do for others, pray for those around you, and keep looking forward. In time you will be able to move out and you will know that you handled yourself well, you did what you could to make the situation better and that is all you can ask of yourself.