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I love her but she has a boyfriend

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I love one girl, but she has a boyfriend. I am 23 years old, she is 30. Anyway I love her, because she is my ALL. We are friends. Her relationship with her boyfriend started 1 month before, so their relationship is not strong yet. I need to hurry. Because I can't stop loving her, I really want to make her happy forever.

I love her with all my heart, I respect her very much and she is my best friend.

I noticed that the other guy with whom we work together loves her too and trying to capture her heart. I think she is accepting it, but she is not sure. I also want to confess in love, but I really afraid losing her. Sometimes I think that her friendship is enough for me, but my hear burns when I see her talking with him...

Should I tell her the truth or just wait? Give me advice please...

Back off she have a boyfriend and you love for her sounds more like an infatuation mixed with obsession.

It doesn't matter when their relationship started you should respect it.

Also, even if she didn't have a boyfriend who to say she felt the same way you do?

I love her and this the point, she also respects me very much, but I think she can't see me as her boyfriend, because I am younger than her. What to do?

What do you do?

Stop focusing on her and get out there and find someone single. By single I mean they don't already have a boyfriend.

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Originally Posted by liz28

What do you do?

Stop focusing on her and get out there and find someone single. By single I mean they don't already have a boyfriend.

Maybe you are right, but she is my angel

First may I say that this is very romantic. Second, you will miss 100% of the shots you don't take, witch means that she may love you, she may not, but you'll never know if you don't confess your feelings for her. Also try not to do it in a very put her on the spot kind of way, just tell her.

Respect your friends relationship, and stop the obsession. If you can't then seek counseling.

I can't forbid my heart you know. Do u mean that I have no chance?

I disagree with liz28. I think if you really love someone you shoud just go for it beacause your going to regret it your whole life if you don't. And your right, don't wait for their relationship to grow stronger,but don't break them up eaither. Don't do some big romantic gesture that puts her on the spot. Just tell her what she means to you and let her know she has options. And for the age thing, if you act like your 30 then that's what shell see you a. Best of luck :)

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I disagree with liz28. I think if you really love someone you shoud just go for it beacause your going to regret it your whole life if you dont. And your right, dont wait for their relationship to grow stronger,but dont break them up eaither. Dont do some big romantic gesture that puts her on the spot. Just tell her what she means to you and let her know she has options. And for the age thing, if you act like your 30 then thats what shell see you a. Best of luck :)

THANK YOU! My heart belongs to her and I must tell it to her. Thank u very much one more time!

I don't know if your serious or just trolling.

The first poster meant that if you don't try, you'll not win her heart for certain. If I were you, I would ask her out for coffee, or someplace away from work, and tell her how you feel. She may not love you back, but at least you let her know how you feel. She might feel love for you, too! You must try.

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Dude... I just read some of your other posts, and you say in those that she already has a boyfriend! You must leave her alone, in that case. You very much altered your situation in this thread in order to suit your needs, which is lying.

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The first poster meant that if you don't try, you'll not win her heart for certain. If I were you, I would ask her out for coffee, or someplace away from work, and tell her how you feel. She may not love you back, but at least you let her know how you feel. She might feel love for you, too! You must try.

U know it is not difficult for to meet her, and I am sure she will say ''YES". We several times met and had such kind of dinners. I am afraid she accepted them just for friendship, That is the problem...

NOOooOOOO As I wrote she is not sure that she loves him and its just started, it is not proper love yet. I know she respects him, but it doesn't mean that she loves. Or I don't know maybe I just trying to do better to my heart...

What is proper love? You think you have proper love for her?

Sometimes when you form a friendship with someone that is all it is--a frienship.

You formed a heavy attraction towards her which lead to infatuation and now a little obsession.

You need to get out there and start dating.

Dude hope this makes sense to you
GROW A PAIR! Man up
Come on soldier.if its not hard to get her alone just do it what do you have to loose?
Even if she doesn't feel the same towards you,she should and most likely would be very complimented in knowing how you feel for her.

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I respect her very much and she is my best friend. I noticed that the other guy with whom we work together loves her too and trying to capture her heart. I think she is accepting it, but she is not sure

No you don't you want more than just friendship, and are jealous because someone else is giving her attention.

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I also want to confess in love, but I really afraid losing her.

She is not yours to lose.

The only thing guys like you understand is to try and see what happens, but if you get rejected, be man enough to leave it alone.

She's with someone else. Back off, and learn that you can't always have what you want.

You are loveable but sometimes the one you love, loves someone else.

It is not that you can not be loved, but that often we have to date and go out with dozens of people to find someone to share real love with