Hi there evrybody. I'm NEED of some HELP! I've currently been dating my girlfriend for 9months already. We have had awesome times together. But recently she shows no affection towards whatsoever, you expect your girlfriend to be excited to see you.but in my case there is no excitement whatsoever and it hurts me to see that, she also mentioned to me that she loves me but isn't in love with me as I am with her. I don't understand this ? I asked what could possible be the problem that is not allowing her to fall and love with me I asked several questions,which are are you talking to someone else,are you afraid to love ,have you forgotten how to love, are you losing interest in, she replied by saying no to all of they above I don't understand what she is thinking she says she doesn't know why she can't fall in live with. I'm so confused and I'm hurting what should I do ? I'm 22 and she's 25, could that be a problem,or age is just a number?

It's very simple, she doesn't feel as deeply about you as you do about her, but she likes you enough to be in a relationship with.

You're thinking too much. Just enjoy the time that you spend together. If you're not happy with the way the relationship is going, then break it off instead of torturing yourself.

Everyone feels like there's still a chance to work it out when they first break up. Usually because you made plans together in the near or distant future, but it's all erased because you guys are broken up.

Just keep in mind that you broke up for a reason. Give yourself some time to let this sink in.

You don't win back her heart. You continue on and work and take care of yourself.

She has her own choices to make and if she chooses to come back then you will be ready, if she doesn't you will have had sometime to heal.

The only person you are in charge of and can take care of is you.

You sound pretty needy to me. What more do you expect her to do to prove herself?? What's she doing that's so wrong, that you broke up with her over?

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One of the great JOYS you have to look forward to is when you do fall in love equally with someone. The one-way stuff is common and normal and not the least bit surprising or problematic. But when you DOES happen it will be so sweet.

Meanwhile, when it doesn't happen/hasn't happened, that does not mean anything is wrong.

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Originally Posted by david123456

...i dont understand what she is thinking she says she doesnt know why she can't fall in live with [me]. im so confused and im hurting what should i do ? im 22 and shes 25, could that be a problem,or age is just a number?

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The problem is your expectations. They aren't reasonable.

Ask a dog why it's not a cat. Go ahead. I'll wait.

You see the problem? Not only can the dog NOT talk so you can't get an answer, even if he could answer there is no meaningful answer to questions like "why isn't this thing different than it is?"

So, manage your expectations. Understand NOW that the hunt for enduring love is a HUNT. No one venture is guaranteed and to disparage yourself or some girl you've dated because it's not meant to be is not only needlessly hurtful, it's plain wrong.

You know... this world is FULL of failed relationships that were forced to continue. THAT'S the real tragedy in life, when you two could part as friendly, caring people not meant "to be" instead of one or both of you desperately trying to prolong it... possibly forever... thus insuring the "real love" waiting out there for you on a future hunt goes undiscovered.

Don't be a tragedy. Be pragmatic. The only problem here is that you're not paying attention to what may be simple truths and preparing yourself for the next hunt.

Try to be with her and give to her a lot of attention make her feel good when she's with u and meaby u will win her back

Hi,,
All of you people blaming him she can be blamed too... if she is not taking care of him as he do care... so hoe can we call love.. love is not just a word to say it.its how to show the others they are loved...
If someone show it and the other accept it without showing too ,its going to be boring relationship.. and you will feel so lonely until you goona look for someone who you can shar the love with...