Hello,

I have been with my girlfriend for about six months. I asked her out the second date I
Knew that she was a person I could be with. So we started having sex in the 1st month
I have always used condoms every time I have had sex. She told me that she loved me and would have my child. She has 2 children. She made me feel so speacial So we stopped using condoms well are second mothe she got pregnant and I was excited cause it was my first and she was excited at first but now she is 4 months and she is dreading it.
She has been very distant with me and doesn't want to have sex with me we barley talk and we have lived together since march of 09 . I don't know what to do all I want is to feel wanted and have a little sex I do what she askes of me we decieded for her to quit her job. Im the only one who works I pay all the bills and pretty much do everything except carring the child?? Can some woman help me get my jillian back I love her so much!!

From your post it sounds like the two of you might have jumped into things a bit too soon. (of course everybody and every couple move at their own pace.) But you moved in together fast, got pregnant fast.


Have you asked her straight out why she is in the mood she is? Could it perhaps be because she's pregnant? (I've never been so I don't know what a woman's body go through when one is with child. I do have some friends who has been/is pregnant and from what I understand... it can cause some hormonal flow that affect moods etc)

Other then that maybe you should have a talk to her about the way you feel, sometimes the best help for a relationship where one feels the way you express in your post is to have a good talk about it and communicate.

I hope this was of some help, and maybe some other AMHD members answer and come with some more helpful advice.

Best of Luck!
Roxy

You jumped so far in this relationship, you got her pregnant in the second month you knew her. She was telling you she wanted to have your child and all that? Didn't take raise a flag of ANY kind? You were not prepared for this struggle in a relationship, pregnancy is a tough time, for both parties. It does two things, either tears them apart or pulls them together. If you don't have a solid base, like your relationship is lacking, it will pull it apart. You need to find out why she is acting like this, trust me, they go through mood swings like crazy when they are pregnant! Just ask her what the problem is

Echoing the other two posts. You definitely jumped into this relationship too fast, but we can't talk backwards anymore.

First off, one of the reasons she might be feeling this way is because she's staying at home now. She's accustomed to working and now she has more free time to reflect on her decisions. It's not a bad thing, but it will make her question her decision. You're just going to have to constantly talk to her to see how she feels. Constantly try to cheer her up. Be patient with her. Hold off on the sex until she feels comfortable with the relationship again.

Having a kid is a huge commitment and maybe another problem is that YOU were not ready for it (emotionally wise). You were not prepared for all the baggage that come with it.

Take the time to work it out with her. Communication is key.