Start with background info I'm 16 couple months off 17 and she is 15 couple of days off 16. We have been going out for 4 months and 2 weeks holidays from school.

I saw her one of the first days of the holidays then she went to the beach with her friends where an incident (her friends ditched her for couple hours in her beach house and went out, they had been drinking at the time) we had planned to see each other the day after she got back but she blew me off/stood me up/cancelled on me. I said that's fine and we made plans for couple days later (at this point I didn't know what happened at the beach) but the night before we had that planned she cancelled again and told me that she needed a couple days to just be with herself away from her friends and me.

Well 4 days ago she started talking to me again and she was the same as usual and I was bit hesitent to just forget what happened (after reading all the stuff in here) but I didn't want to be rude so I talked to her and we had plans for yesterday but she cancelled on them too.

Now I'm thinking that maybe I should extend the break we had so that I can think about wats going on between us cause she keeps cancelling on me all the time. And here's were the problem starts cause in a weeks time we have my semi formal( I live in Australia so semiformal sort of like your prom from what I've seen but less formal) and I invited her a few weeks back so if I have a break it would only be for couple days which probably would be fine for me but I don't want it to be akward on the night

I'm sure some/all of you after reading this think she's cheating on you leave her but I know she hasn't left the house and she's the girl that is ruthlessly honest to people so she's not cheating

What are your opinions on what I should do

(I appologise for my writing I'm more of a maths person)

Give her space.
Don't ask her out again, let her make that move now seeing as she cancelled on you a few times.

Yeah the first time she cancelled she organised it and the latest she organised that one too

Ok then did you simply ask her why?

Yep all she says is sorry and gets onto what next hits her mind

Say sorry is not enough and you want an explanation, do this only if you thin she is worth it, otherwise just let her be and next time she asks you out say NO.

Hmmm ill take that to concideration but the next time would be the semi formal so I can't say no to that as its my schools semi formal

I also forgot to put in that I think her friend is filling her head with crap. Her friend told me that I'm too obsessed with her cause I talk to her every 2 or when she talks to me (this includes msn,sms,phone) and the friend said it should only be once a week which I know is just a load of crap but I can't tell her that her friend is wrong cause she will listen to her friend before she listens to me

Seems like her friend is jealous...

Yeah would also explain why when she was over her hosue and I asked her friend how she was she said that I'm too clingy cause I asked how she was but even if the friend is jealous what ever she will say my girlfriend will base majority of her decisions on it

Well then your girlfriend should know better than that.

Either have a serious talk to your girlfriend or just lose interest now.

Yeah and until this is fully worked out I guess the punching bag is going to be sore cause I don't want to end it just yet over wats happened in like what 2/3weeks

You are so young don't get attached, concentrate on your schooling and having fun.

Lol I've been out with friends everyday in the holidays my girlfriend isn't my life lol and if I wasn't out I would be working out but I do like seeing my girlfriend when I can

Seems like she prefers seeing HER friends thou.

But its good to see that your life doesn't evolve round her. Carry on as you're doing but let her call you or ask you out and next time she does.. tell her "you're not gonna cancel on me again now are you?"

You definitely have a problem. I'd back off for a good long while. I'd even consider just finding another date for your semiformal. She obviously isn't respecting your time so there's no need for you to worry about hers. Forget all about her for a while. One of two things will happen ; either that'll light a fire under her when she realizes that you're willing to walk away and she's losing you and she'll come back or it'll turn out that it just wasn't meant to be. You have a right to know one way or the other and this is the only way to find out.

Just me, I would have been long gone and had another date to this semi formal. You can only get your a$$ kicked if you bend over, so straighten up and move on.

I can't uninvite her as the invitation is in her name already and I can't change who I take

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Originally Posted by papashong

i can't uninvite her as the invitation is in her name already and i can't change who i take

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Really? Why the heck not? It only takes a pen to cross out her name and replace it with someone else's.

"... first days of the holidays then she went to the beach with her friends where an incident (her friends ditched her for couple hours in her beach house and went out, they had been drinking at the time) we had planned to see each other the day after she got back but she blew me off/stood me up/cancelled on me..."Girlfriend is not cheating... something really sad happened at the beach house... she is not trusting any one for awhile... have you tried just asking her what happened and make this promise... your relationship with her will not change how you feel about her because of what happened at the beach house... can you make that statement?. young people are sensitive to events... she not ditching you she is ditching the world... is her facial expressions cold... something happened and it is serious... be calm and talk to her as a good friend... take her to the bakery or someplace that serves ice cream talk to her...

Yeah we broke up and yeah I'm uninviting her