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OK I'm 14 almost 15 and I know that I'm almost there but my mom says that I can't date till I'm 16. Because she does not want me to make the same mistakes that she did. :mad::mad:i know that she is only trying to help but I'm dating behind her back and its so weird because I usually tell her everything.:confused: I guess the biggest issue with this is that I want to make my own mistakes and not always learn from hers. Got any advice??
My best advice is to listen to your mother. You will have time to make your own mistakes, but right now you are too young.
Dating behind her back is a very bad thing. It will only bite you in the butt when she finds out. And she WILL find out. At that time she may restrict your dating until 17.
I am a mother of a 15 year old girl. I understand where you are coming from and I understand where your mother is coming from.
Omg I know exactly how you feel... I'm not sure when I can date because my parents keep changing the date. It used to be 15 but now that I'm 14 and will be turning 15 in a few months they changed it to like 16 or 17. Trust me I know exactly how you feel. Hang in there, plus I agree with J_9 about the whole dating thing behind her back because she will find it out sometime.
Good luck :D
I know exactly how you feel I'm 14.. . and I tell my mom everything to
Except of me dating.. . im not sure if I can I have a boyfriend right now
But I still do
Thax guys
I mean I broke up with my boyfriend 4 this summer and he want to get back together when school starts and I was not sure what to say.
So thax 4 all the post!
Love you all!!
Even before reading your other posts, I understood your mothers concern.
So you are dealing with a boyfriend who is threatening suicide if you do not continue the relationship.
You were dating someone 2-3 years older than yourself at 14.
These are emotionally things that you are not ready for and all the while you are hiding all of this from your mother, yet she has always been your one best support and confident. Without your mother guidance you are treading this course without guidance. Please focus on the things that you should, schoolwork, friends, activities and having fun. You will have plenty of time for grown up things when you are grown up. That is the experience an adult has, to realize that time really does go faster then you can imagine. Spend this time being a teenager, but don't include dating until your mother agrees. Then you should definitely be introducing your date to your mother.
Sometimes it's hard to see but your mother cares about you best and is only looking out for your best interest.
The one thing I'll add (because I think Justy's post was excellent)... is that once your mother finds out what you've been doing behind her back, her trust for you will be gone. Once that trust is broken it will be really hard to get it back. We all understand that you're upset but you're more likely to find yourself in a worse position later because she won't trust you.
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I missed where she said he was threatening suicide...
But either way just wait. Its much different today then it was years ago. There are many pressures out there that you are to young to handle and to have to deal with. What's the big deal if your dating at 14 or 17. Its all the same in the end. Just be young and enjoy life. Don't worry about dating when your still learning about yourself.
Read her other posts.Quote:
Originally Posted by 88sunflower
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