So... me and my boyfriend have been messing around with oral sex and sex itself...
But with in the last month I have not been getting wet! Or I will get wet then it will go away.. I am not really sure. Its very frustrating and painful! In the past I was JUST fine. Now not so much :/

You need to use lube I get the same thing I feel sore after so I use lube

Your own spit is one of the best lubricants that there is, our while he is doing oral on you tell him to use his on you. Also he should be making tons of lube so use your finger and milk his penis and smear the liquid into you.

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Originally Posted by letmetellu

Your own spit is one of the best lubricants that there is, our while he is doing oral on you tell him to use his on you. Also he should be making tons of lube so use your finger and milk his penis and smear the liquid into you.

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That only works if you are on hormone based birth control!!
Pre ejaculation can often contain a small amount of sperm so it's best not to risk it.
People have also gotten pregnant from playing with a mans penis, then putting a condom on him without washing their hands.

As for the dryness, the only alternative is to use lubrication. You ar enot alone, a lot of women have this problem.
I agree with letmetellu on spit being a good lubrication (I prefer this over actual products), its quick and easy but unfortunately does not last as long as lube's such as ky jelly and genrally evaporates/dissapears after a bit.

Ky has some really nice gels out now. That will help.

Every woman has times when she is dry. It's perfectly normal and has nothing to do with your sex drive or ability to enjoy sex.

Also, make sure whatever lube you use is waterbased. Some lubricants can damage condoms and make them not as useful.

Are you taking any new medications? Meds can have sometimes have a negative effect on sexual desires/performance.

Have you had any major changes in your life? Death, stress, finances, new job... etc. Or has the relationship begun to change?

As the others suggested, try using a lube like KY and that should help. Also, you may just need a little more foreplay to get ready. Keep in mind foreplay can start long before you reach the bedroom. Racy texts while you're apart running errands, sexy emails, quick glances across the dinner table, playful touching while doing the dishes, etc. Keep things interesting.

Are you drinking enough water?

Sounds like a stupid question, but if you're not hydrated enough, you're not going to get wet.