I am 30yr old married woman dating a married man of 36yrs old. We both love our spouses but yearn for each other every now and then.

He has a kid and I have none yet.

Is is right to be feeling this man about another man, especially one that is married?

I can't help my feelings, they're strong and sincere.

Please help me decide what to do.

I don't want to stop seeing him.

I care for him too much.

What do you think? The fact that you need to post this question on this site means that you must feel guilty about it.

How do you think your spouses will feel if they ever find out? If both of you are willing to cheat, then both of you are willing to face the consequences if your spouses found out.

This is going to be harsh.
You are cheating on your marriage vows. You are cheating on your husband. What kind of dumb is that? You apparently do not know what love is, otherwise you would not be cheating and neither would the bum you are screwing. Wake up and make some hard decisions. Either make a commitment to your husband, confess your sins and get some professional help. Or leave your husband and do what you want to ruin 5 peoples lives.

You are both cheating.

Tell your respective husband and wife.

Both get a divorce so you can be together.

I guess the replies are from people trying to be moral police.

Yes, prima facie the world will treat this at cheating. In reality it is animal instinct inherent in all living beings. It is the urge to find better things, same like finding a better job, good food, better home etc.

I guess if both partners internalize and are confident that they are indeed the ones ideal for each other. They must talk to their spouses and seek a divorce on mutual consent. Yes, there will be a cyclone, but once for all. Life will take its own course and all five will come to terms.

Another way of looking at it is, why to get in to a binding like marriage. Continue as it is, at the same time being responsible towards respective families and spouses.

Everyone is a sinner. No one is an ideal example.