Every time my man gets off work he goes to the bedroom to "relax". He never invites me. He expects me to fix him dinner or whatever. I kind of have to initiate sex. If he does he asks 4 anal sex. What is going on. We have been together 4 3 years almost and I am really becoming discouraged with our relationship. He just caught me writing to this website and got angry and hit me in my arm. Does he have a guilty conscience or what. I know the signs and I've been through this before. Is he possibly cheating on me? 2 offer a little more info I have not worked in almost 3 years. He is working at a nursing home with all women ( the only male). I used 2 work before we were together. He is honduran, all the women are black. I'm so fed up what's wrong? Every time I mention getting a job he flips the out. What's wrong with this scene?
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Did you asked him before what are you asking with us? He's the one involved and the only person who can best explains this behavior.

Normally, we would tell you to communicate with him to try to work it out. But he sounds abusive, controlling, neglectful, inconsiderate... so I think we can skip the whole... "you should confront him" thing and just leave him. Let him sit in bed alone. Dinner won't cook by itself.

You deserve much better treatment than this. You don't have to suffer this way. There are much better men out there who know how to treat a woman.

You need to get a job, then get out. He is controlling every aspect of your life and I'd say at this point it's not worth saving.

So during the months that you dated before you got together did you find him abusive and controlling.