My name is Alise My mother is from Harlem, Montana. I want to find my birth father but my mother won't tell me who he is. Who is my birth father?

Have you asked other family members

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Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck

Have you asked other family members

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You but they are keeping their mouths shut. I guess I found out he's an alcoholic and he used to beat my mom.

Why in the world do you want to locate him, then?

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Originally Posted by Synnen

Why in the world do you want to locate him, then?

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Your right... I guess I don't know. A part of me wants to tell him I exist and another part of me wants to curse him for what he did to my mom. I guess I don't really know what I want.

How old are you?

Facing the person who abandoned you will not help you deal with those feelings.
Can you talk to your mother about seeking some counseling.

There are lifelong ramifications of children who feel abandoned by one of their parents. Maybe seeking counseling would be more of a worthwhile task, then seeking a confrontation with him.

Its not as important as such.forget about him and move on.maybe he was a gigg.