My closest friend who usually is very supportive knows I am looking for a job in a particular state. He's very bitter about his high taxes there. I am anxious about finding a job, which my friend knows. He has told me a couple of times that the only way I will get a job there is by knowing someone. He's said this a couple of times, and I tried to be more positive about it, but he got very y about repeating what he said. I don't know why he would say that knowing I am so worried about finding work. It's mean to say, but I think he is happier knowing I am floundering rather than succeeding because he is so unhappy with his life. Also, after I got married, too, he became very nasty, bringing up past failures in my life that I was very sensitive to. He was quite repetitive with the jabs about my past. Overall, he is a very good friend, but sometimes I really hate him for the things he has said. Am I just too sensitive?

Could he have had feelings for you that you were not aware of and then when you got married it upset him because he hadn't had the opportunity to let you know he had those kind of feelings for you?

Maybe he is being honest with you about the work being about non existent in his state.
Or he could just really believe it is that bad and getting upset thinking you are that stubborn to not believe him.
Have you checked Monster.com and other sites to see what the job opportunities look like there?