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  • Oct 4, 2006, 11:09 AM
    angel129
    I don't understand if I'm pregnant
    :confused: hey everybody I'm new to this but I have a question I had a pregnancy test that came out positive and it was very showable but now I'm scared because I started bleeding a little then today's its more but I have very strong cramps I've never had this before what could it be please help.
  • Oct 4, 2006, 11:28 AM
    SINGLE4
    See your doctor IMMEDIATELY! This also happened to me!

    Let us know!
  • Oct 4, 2006, 11:35 AM
    angel129
    I'm scared to see a doctor but do you think I am pregnant or no or can it be implantation I don't know omg help me
  • Oct 4, 2006, 11:37 AM
    Depressed in MO
    How old are you? Why are you scared to see the doctor girl, Go! This is your health, you need to go
  • Oct 4, 2006, 11:38 AM
    JoeCanada76
    If your bleeding a lot more and your test showed positive for pregnancy, why be foolish and not go to the doctor? I would be scared not knowing at least a doctor would be able to give you an answer.
  • Oct 4, 2006, 12:08 PM
    kp2171
    Some of your symptoms can be experienced during a normal pregnancy, and also, some can be experienced when there is a problem.

    Nobody, therefore, can diagnose you over the computer. go see a doctor. period. don't fret, fuss, worry, make excuses just go.
  • Oct 4, 2006, 12:27 PM
    nslane
    More than likely your pregnant mama. The strong cramps are a big sign. Some people bleed their first couple of months, so it is not rare. Go to the doctor and find out for sure, but I can bet that you are indeed pregnant. I have two kids.
  • Oct 4, 2006, 12:56 PM
    angel129
    So you think I am I'm 15 so yea I know its shocking but yea so you guys think I am omg but I can't let my mom find out so how do I do this
  • Oct 4, 2006, 01:03 PM
    ScottGem
    First you NEED to see a docotor. Second, there are clinics that will maintain your privacy. Even if you go see your regular physcian, he is bound by patient/doctor confidentiality. Though I can understand how it might, at 15, be more difficult to see your regular physcian without your parents knowledge.

    I would look for Planned Parenthood clinics in your area.
  • Oct 4, 2006, 01:14 PM
    angel129
    But I can't do that and how that's y I'm scared because I have no one to take me without saying anything to my family so what do I do I need to know if I am or if I'm just weird I'm sorry but I can't go I really hope the cramping goes away it is real painful bad:(

    And yea thank you so much you really are helping
  • Oct 4, 2006, 01:18 PM
    Depressed in MO
    You don't have anyone to take you to the clinic? What about the gentleman who helped you to conceive? Is he only 15 too?
    I became pregnant at age 16. I know it's hard, and I know you are scared-tell your mother. Or an aunt, someone you are close to in your family. So what if you are pregnant? They are going to know eventually, no matter what you decide to do.
  • Oct 4, 2006, 01:21 PM
    ScottGem
    I understand you are scared, but you CANNOT deal with this on your own. Your parents love you and while they will be angry at you, they will help you. I strongly urge you to talk to your mom right away.
  • Oct 4, 2006, 01:44 PM
    nslane
    I believe you should tell your parents what's going on with you. Trust me I know it's hard and I know you are scared to tell them. I've been through this with my first child. They might be angry at you, but remember they love you. They will be there for you and help you in any way possible. Don't turn to others for help. Turn to the ones who love you unconditionaly and who won't judge you, (your parents). In time the anger and frustration shall pass and the birth of your baby will be a joy.
  • Oct 4, 2006, 02:21 PM
    J_9
    Okay, first things first. You HAVE to tell your parents, even if you don't they will find out when you are showing. So, if you were mature enough to have sex at 15, then you should be mature enough to handle the consequences and tell your parents.

    Secondly, if you are bleeding and cramping badly this could be a very bad sign. It is normal for some women, but in others it can be dangerous.

    You MUST go to the doctor to make sure everything is okay. If something is wrong it could put your life in harm's way, a way that you could possibly die from, such as a tubal pregnancy that bursts. So, you see, you need to go do the doctor.
  • Oct 4, 2006, 03:29 PM
    angel129
    but I can't I know that it can harm me but still I just want to know if its true people are telling me that its my period but I have never had it with cramps so I don't now what to think anymore
  • Oct 4, 2006, 03:47 PM
    J_9
    You took the pregnancy test and it turned out positive. So you are pregnant.

    A positive HPT means you are pregnant. Pregnancy with bleeding and cramps could possibly be very dangerous and even life threatening.

    You NEED to go to the doctor. I would hate to find out that you died because you were afraid.

    We cannot diagnose you over the internet. It is impossible, literally impossible.

    If you are that scared, tell your parents that you are VERY sick and get them to take you to the emergency room at the hospital. When the doc tells you that you are pregnant it is against the law for him to tell your parents. So go to the ER, have the test, then tell your parents later.

    This could save your life!!

    Do you understand how serious I am about this!!
  • Oct 4, 2006, 04:24 PM
    angel129
    I don't know how to do that because she will just say go take a pill and you'll get better which doesn't work so how should I do this so I am or am I in big things

    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Depressed in MO
    You don't have anyone to take you to the clinic? What about the gentleman who helped you to conceive? Is he only 15 too?
    I became pregnant at age 16. I know it's hard, and I know you are scared-tell your mother. Or an aunt, someone you are close to in your family. So what if you are pregnant? They are going to know eventually, no matter what you decide to do.

    Yes he is only 15 so what can I do can I still go
  • Oct 4, 2006, 04:37 PM
    J_9
    You are in "big things" You need to get to the doctor.

    If she will make you take a pill you need to tell her you are pregnant.

    If you do not, and the pain and bleeding continues, you could wake up in a very serious situation in the morning.

    Please understand that I am not trying to scare you, but your health could be at risk.

    Also, as a mother of a 20, 18, 13 and 4 year old, I am telling you that if you were mature enough to make the decision to have sex you must be mature enough to suffer the consequences.

    You need to tell her now. I know it is scary, and yes, she will be mad, but she will get over it. I can assure you that she does not want to lose her daughter. If you do, in fact, have a tubal pregnancy that is what will happen if you do not tell her.

    Do you want to die? Do you want to live in pain? Do you want a very serious infection?

    I don't think you do. You MUST talk to her.
  • Oct 4, 2006, 06:38 PM
    kp2171
    Angel

    You are resisting the TRUTH. The truth is one thing. You need to see a doctor. You CAN. It won't be fun. You're in a bad spot. It's the reality. You MUST and NEED to see a doctor. Period.

    No other discussion needed. Do it. Period.

    You were old enough to have sex. Now be old enough to possibly save you own life.

    No other recourse here. Do it.

    Time to stop acting like a child.
  • Oct 4, 2006, 07:01 PM
    J_9
    KP is right here. You did not act like a child by having sex, you acted like an adult. It is time to stop acting like a child and take care of your resposibilities.

    If you are old enough to have sex, you must be old enough to take care of a baby.

    I am sorry if this sounds hurtful, but did you not realize you could get pregnant by having sex?

    You are going to be a mother. Are you ready for that?

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