Husband in prison. I want a divorce.
I have been married to my husband for 6 Years. Living together for 9 years. He has been in prison for a year and 8 months. I have a son from a previous relationship who’s dad died. My husband and I also have a son together. My husband raised my son as his own. He was drug dealing the whole time we were together. I asked him to stop and he said he would and he needed a little time. He was caught and sentenced to state prison for 4 years. I was waiting for him. 3 months during his time away he was picked up by the US Marshalls and picked up a new Federal case. He was offered 35 years but he refused and went to trial. He lost trial, and was found guilty on numerous counts including RICO and gun and drug charges. He is now awaiting sentencing, which should be in September. I know he is going to be there for many years.
I wanted to wait. I have been supportive and been there for him. But I was also so depressed and unhappy. I cried all the time and my boys keep asking me when is he coming home. They cry because they miss him.
About three months ago I met a younger man. He is nice and I told him my situation. He has been there for me and has taken us out and spent time with me and with my boys. I have grown feelings for him. I feel I am falling in love with him. And he feels the same.
I just told my husband that I met someone and that I have been talking to this person. I did not want to hurt my husband, but I could not lie to him because my feelings for my husband are drifting away. My husband is angry. He said I was wrong and I am moving on too quickly and I should have waited as long as it took because I am his wife. He was good to me, but I have been so lonely and miserable. All the time we were married, we fought so much because he didn’t have time for us, due to his “business”. He gave us everything but I still wanted him to stop. He says he did not know he would go to prison for so long. He says he will do a lot of time but he will get out eventually. With this new guy I have been happier. He makes me feel like no other man ever. He accepts me for who I am, and wants me to leave my husband.
I pretty much have decided to move on, but I want some feedback to reassure myself this is the right decision or should I give this some more thought.