I been with the same man almost an year and half. When he in a bad move he text me and say its over but most of my time is just give him space to think. The last break up I had with him was on February 14, 2009 and I did not see him or talk to him 1 month later he say he miss me and still in love with me. So I just think maybe I trust him and let him know ithat I care for him. So we get back but just stay at frtiendhip stage. On Apirl 15, 2009 he text me say the its over just a week later my uncle die so my stress life went down. I when to New York for a week to stay with my aunt and help her take care the kids. But when I leave he text me say I mis you I can't live without you so I keep on think. So when I came back I went to see what happen just like the way his mom told me I see him so pale and not happy but when he see me his life is just turn back on. Just 1day before motherday he break up with me. He say he still in love with his ex girlfriend so walk away from this world and very come back. So now I told myself that I never trust any men in this world.

I told my friend that what type of girlfriend I am she/ he say that I am a very good and kind girl. I let my boyfriend with his friend just be with me only on Sunday and you could got out with friend to the bar or go out drinking at a friend house I just don't care what you did just be with me for just one day only that all I want.

What is in a relationship?

Trust, confidence, love, communication and work.


Don't be discouraged to trust men, when it's the one man that you don't trust. You will push away any possible friendship or relationship with another guy that comes along.

This relationship you're going back and forth from is unhealthy and will get you nowhere. If you don't like the break up - make up deal, you should quit as soon as you can. He is no good for you, he's going back and forth with you and his other ex. You don't need that.

Never get involved with someone that isn't over someone else. When this happens you will get the results you got from this relationship. Emotional baggage is never good.

I don't know how you dealt with his mood swings. Today he wants to be with you but tomorrow is another story. If it was me I would have never let him back in into my life.

He did what he did because he knew you would wait for him and get back with him whenever he wanted you to. Don't do it again because you don't need a guy like this. This isn't love. His temper tantrums proved that.

You can do better and will find better. Don't let him make you think nor believe that all men are like him because their not. A real man doesn't behave like he did but a boy will--that's the difference. I was beginning to think was bipolar or something until you say he wasn't over his ex--red flags.

One more word of advice is to never settle.