I am a young girl in her early teens. I have tried to stop eating before only to be stopped by my friends. Whenver I talk to my mom about me being fat she thinks I'm over exaggerating and being dramatic. I haven't told anyone this but earlier in the year if I got stressed or mad or sad id take my nails and dig into my skin, then as time went on I started using sissors and if anything happened in school id take sissors in my ppocket and go to the bathroom stall and cut arm. Eventually I had thoughts of suicide but never do anything. I still do sometimes but haven't done anything. And when I'm alone sometimes I just get really sad and wonder why I am here and if any one would miss me if I died and why everyone hates me. When I'm with my friends I'm happy but when I'm alone I get really sad. There is nothing wrong with my life except that I'm fat ( I'm 5'3 and 113 pounds) and ugly (people say I'm pretty but I doubt that) my family is well off and I'm good except for lack of parents a special events and stufff but they are the half the time and stuff I'm really confused and don't no if my mind is just being over dramatic or I am just seeking attention. ( I am also told I am too tough on myself all the time and get stressed easily) everyone thinks I'm over dramatic which I am in all diff stuff. But right now I am reallly confused. This is the first time I have ever let anything out like this out (the only time I came close was when I told my friend I used to think of running away during truth or dare (shes my best friend in the world) and when I told her how I hate being weak and crying) so I need help and please don't tell me to tell my parents or anything like that because I won't. ( sorry for how long this is. Like I said first time I let any of this out and only time I will)

Being a teenager can be very hard at times.

You want to fit in,you want everyone to like you and sometimes you have sadness and confusion.

You are fine for your height and weight.I am the same height and weight.I am not fat by any means.So lets not go there :)

Why do you think you are ugly? We already know your not fat.I bet you are not ugly either.

I think when you are young,you do think too much,its part of growing up.

I remember my kids asking me when they were teens,why am I here ?

What is my purpose in this life?

Have you ever kept a journal?

I always did and I found it a great way to get my feelings out.

Sometimes we spend too much time over thinking things and we need to learn how to turn off the thoughts inside our head.

That means getting active,finding something that you really enjoy doing that you are talented at and passionate about.

Remember that you are a person of value and you need to honor yourself if you want others to honor you.

Get back and we will talk some more if you want. If I am not here to listen,someone always is :)

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Being a teenager can be very hard at times.

You want to fit in,you want everyone to like you and sometimes you have sadness and confusion.

You are fine for your height and weight.I am the same height and weight.I am not fat by any means.So lets not go there :)

Why do you think you are ugly? We already know your not fat.I bet you are not ugly either.

I think when you are young,you do think too much,its part of growing up.

I remember my kids asking me when they were teens,why am I here ?

What is my purpose in this life?

Have you ever kept a journal?

I always did and I found it a great way to get my feelings out.

Sometimes we spend too much time over thinking things and we need to learn how to turn off the thoughts inside our head.

That means getting active,finding something that you really enjoy doing that you are talented at and passionate about.

Remember that you are a person of value and you need to honor yourself if you want others to honor you.

Get back and we will talk some more if you want. If I am not here to listen,someone always is :)

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Thank you :) thank you for listening and not giving me any crud that I haven't already thought of or what people sometimes tell other people. I don't no why but you just made me feel really good inside and thank you. It feels good to be listened to

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thank you for listening and not giving me any crud that I haven't already thought of or what people sometimes tell other people. I don't no why but you just made me feel really good inside and thank you. It feels good to be listened to

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That's good honey.
My kids are men now but I still remember how hard it was for them growing up.Actually my 22yr.old still has a long way to go :eek:

Why can't you talk to your Mom? Just curious.

What are you good at? Are you an artist.I am (artlady duh)What do you really shine at?

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That's good honey.
My kids are men now but I still remember how hard it was for them growing up.Actually my 22yr.old still has a long way to go :eek:

Why can't you talk to your Mom? Just curious.

What are you good at? Are you an artist.I am (artlady duh)What do you really shine at?

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Well its just she will think I am being over dramatic and make a big fuss and will be like "Oh come on!" and I'm really good at basketball and volleyball and softball my dads my basketball coach but he is really really tough at me. I also like to act and play piano and saxophone but my younger sister is a way better singer and piano player and she does everything I do and is a great artist and is always impressing my parents. I am a good writer I geuss but so are my friends. I'm also really smart but my parents focus more on getting my sister smarter then my grades

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well its just she will think i am being over dramatic and make a big fuss and wil be like "Oh come on!" and im really good at basketball and volleyball and softball my dads my basketball coach but he is really really tough at me. i also like to act and play piano and saxophone but my younger sister is a way better singer and piano player and she does everthing i do and is a great artist and is always impressing my parents. i am a good writer i geuss but so are my friends. im also really smart but my parents focus more on getting my sister smarter then my grades

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WOW! You have so much going for you!
I have always wanted to play piano and sax .(alto is my fav) Two of my favorite instruments.I love the blues.
I know you are a good writer because you express yourself very well.
Parents always push one child or another depending on the feeling of the moment.We screw up too:)
Your Dad is your coach,that's cool,except that he most likely expects MORE from you.
And acting too! Wow ,do you ever rest?

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WOW! You have so much going for you!!
I have always wanted to play piano and sax .(alto is my fav) Two of my favorite instruments.I love the blues.
I know you are a good writer because you express yourself very well.
Parents always push one child or another depending on the feeling of the moment.We screw up too:)
Your Dad is your coach,that's cool,except that he most likely expects MORE from you.
And acting too! Wow ,do you ever rest?

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Haha not really my parents had to stop me from doing more because I always try to do everything and please everyone. It seems like they expect a lot from me. I no parents aren't perfect and thank you for all the compliments. Rite now I'm doing panio/singing (same teacher at same time) softball, travel basketball (first time dad isn't nil basketball and forensics earlier in the year. Another thing about talking to my mom is I doubt she will beleve me and think I just want attention. It also feels like I am always doing something wrong. Texting too much not paying enough attention, and just messing up. But I think mayb I will talk to my brother. He is 24 but lives acroos the country from me. We call each other every week now starting mayb 2 weeks ago.

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haha not really my parents had to stop me from doing more because i always try to do everything and please everyone. it seems like they expect alot from me. i no parents aren't perfect and thank you for all the compliments. rite now im doing panio/singing (same teacher at same time) softball, travel basketball (first time dad isnt nil basketball and forensics earlier in the year. another thing about talking to my mom is i doubt she will beleve me and think i just want attention. it also feels like i am always doing something wrong. texting too much not paying enough attention, and just messing up. but i think mayb i will talk to my brother. he is 24 but lives acroos the country from me. we call each other every week now startin mayb 2 weeks ago.

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You have to think of yourself sweetie.There is just NO WAY you will ever please everyone

Its impossible because every person wants something different from you or EXPECTS something different from you.

It sounds like you have an awful lot of pressure on you for such a young girl.

I understand that your family is highly motivated but everyone needs down time.
It sounds like a good idea to talk to your brother.Maybe he can help to talk to your parents.

Your too young for so much stress. Enjoy yourself as you are are only 14 once :D

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You have to think of yourself sweetie.There is just NO WAY you will ever please everyone

Its impossible because every person wants something different from you or EXPECTS something different from you.

It sounds like you have an awful lot of pressure on you for such a young girl.

I understand that your family is highly motivated but everyone needs down time.
It sounds like a good idea to talk to your brother.Maybe he can help to talk to your parents.

Your too young for so much stress. Enjoy yourself as you are are 14 once :D

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Thanks. You have been really helpful and made me feel really good about myself. Its just I always feel like I HAVE to do everything and be super girl. I can't stand to disappoint people and I have no idea why. It gets really stressfull and find myself close to tears a lot but forcing myself not to cry.

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thanks. you have been really helpfull and made me feel really good about myself. its just i always feel like i HAVE to do everything and be super girl. i can't stand to disappoint people and i have no idea why. it gets really stressfull and find myself close to tears alot but forcing myself not to cry.

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Maybe you are a people pleaser who just does not know how to say NO!
I was the same way and still am in many respects.Too many actually :rolleyes:

I am going to give you a link that I think will help you.You are so bright ,even thought this is rather complicated,I trust you will get it.
From Parent-Pleasing to People-Pleasing: The Journey Away from Self . . . and the Way Back (Part 3 of 3) | Psychology Today Blogs

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Maybe you are a people pleaser who just does not know how to say NO!
I was the same way and still am in many respects.Too many actually :rolleyes:

I am going to give you a link that I think will help you.You are so bright ,even thought this is rather complicated,I trust you will get it.
From Parent-Pleasing to People-Pleasing: The Journey Away from Self . . . and the Way Back (Part 3 of 3) | Psychology Today Blogs

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Thank you for everything and I think I am a people pleaser I will look up the link soon I promise

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thank u for everything and i think i am a people pleaser i will look up the link soon i promise

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Good honey and if you just want to talk,that is cool too.There are many great people here who will listen and truly care :)

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Good honey and if you just want to talk,that is cool too.There are many great people here who will listen and truly care :)

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Thank you. For everything especially for just listening. It feels good to be listened too and to be taken seriously

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thank you. for everything especially for just listening. it feels good to be listened too and to be taken seriously

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My pleasure .It was fun talking to you ,if only virtually :D

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My pleasure .It was fun talking to you ,if only virtually :D

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:) no honestly the pleasure was all mine. And the feeling is mutual. Talking to you has ben very informative and... uplifting

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:) no honestly the pleasure was all mine. and the feeling is mutual. talking to you has ben very informative and... uplifting

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And you just uplifted me :D

Hi, devilsgirl14!

I'm not trying to steal this thread, as artlady is doing a wonderful job on it!

But, I would like to say, that I do have an activity that I like to do with people on this site to help them feel better about themselves and feel like they've really accomplished something.

If you're interested in knowing what it is and possibly participating in it, please let me know on this thread.

It would go right along with the musical things that you're doing!

Thanks!

Comments on this post artlady agrees: She has two instruments that she plays,SAX,I love it!

Yes! And, I'm looking forward to how she responds here!

Thanks!

What is your activity? I'm always open to new experiences and once again I want to thank artlady for everything and making me feel so good :)

I couldn't spread the "love" after having already given it to you so recently here, artlady! But, you do do a great job and service to others here!

Thanks!