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  • May 25, 2009, 03:31 PM
    tony71
    Need advise
    Met this girl last Thursday night, I knew her from before but we bumped into each other at this party and she came over and started talking. She came with this guy which she claims is a friend, anyway after talking we went our separate ways to talk to other people... I realized I want her number, so we bump into each other again and she asled me for my number so we exhanged numbers, talked some more and somehow we ended up going to another bar with my friends and her friends.

    The make it short, Saturday I called her to go out for dinner but she had to go to a barbq party, so she said afterwards she can meet. I was thinking she might not even call, so I went with a friend to this bar then I get a text from her that night and wanted to know where Im at. I told her where I was and she came alone, we talked some more and danced and ended up making out the whole night but at the same time she kept getting these text messages, which Im sure is from her socalled guy friend.

    Anyway after 2 hours she said she had to go home, so we said goodbye and she went home. The next day she texted me thanking me for last night. So I texted her back 30 minutes later and asked how she was doing and that she was more than welcome. But she never texted me back..

    Now here is my issue, should I just wait till she text me or should I text her back in 2 or 3 days and invite her over for dinner and see if she will go for it? But I need to think of something creative to say in the text.
  • May 25, 2009, 03:35 PM
    ChihuahuaMomma

    Why not try CALLING her and inviting her somewhere? A picnic lunch in the park.
  • May 25, 2009, 03:35 PM
    I wish

    You guys already made out. I'm sure she's decided her interest level on you. You can wait 2-3 days before messaging or calling (more preferable) her again to see if she wants to go out again.

    You don't need to worry about something creative to say in the text to get her to come out. She will come out if she wants to. Worry more about what kind of conversation you will have if she does come out.
  • May 25, 2009, 03:37 PM
    tony71

    Wow you guys are fast! Thanks for the advise. Im good with conversation, I just trying to figure her out since I know she has lots of guy friends and I don't want to be another guy friend she maybe or may not be using.
  • May 25, 2009, 03:42 PM
    I wish
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by tony71 View Post
    wow you guys are fast! Thanks for the advise. Im good with conversation, I just trying to figure her out since I know she has lots of guy friends and I don't want to be another guy friend she maybe or may not be using.

    It's all in the conversation man. Instead of going out to make-out with her next time, make sure you get an environment to have that great conversation, which will make you stand out from the rest of the guys.

    If she's interested, she will come out...
  • May 25, 2009, 04:33 PM
    tony71

    I wish you right, will need to take out to dinner or just for coffee,
  • May 25, 2009, 05:21 PM
    Izzyy

    I'd wait for her to text back since you made the last effort. Just don't get your hopes up
  • May 25, 2009, 05:46 PM
    tony71

    I know. I can also just text her mid week and just say, dinner at my place with a time and see what her response would be.
  • May 25, 2009, 05:59 PM
    liz28

    Right now the two of you are just hanging out and aren't exclusive so don't focus on the other guys texting her. When the two of you are together just make it be about the two of you.

    Now since you know she has a lot of males friends do you think your be able to accept that if things get serious?

    I ain't the traditional type when it comes to dating and I think if you want something you need to go after it. Since you text her already give her a call like CM said and leave a vm if she doesn't answer. After that the ball is in her court because I am sure she received your text and vm.

    This girl might be all about the chase because I am sure she might be use to guys chasing her. Now I am not the one to play these games.
  • May 25, 2009, 06:13 PM
    tony71

    I think that is what she is, she likes guys chasing her. So I can wait it out and see if she calls or just text her during the week.
  • May 25, 2009, 06:27 PM
    liz28

    I know texting is easy to do but calling her and talking to her is better. This gives you a better feel of things and makes it more personal.
  • May 25, 2009, 07:21 PM
    tony71

    You guys are right.

    Will call her Wednesday then.

    Thanks for the advises!
  • May 26, 2009, 08:17 AM
    tony71
    I got a text from her today responding to my text from Sunday. "Hello, Hello, Im well!, how are you?"

    Maybe I should wait a day before I respond?
  • May 26, 2009, 08:22 AM
    jammixmaster

    The chick is obviously into you. She let you make out with her. Short of her being a complete whore, I'm sure you two could get together again. Instead of texting, try calling her. Girls prefer to hear a voice on the other end rather than a digital message.
  • May 26, 2009, 08:23 AM
    tony71

    I guess I will call her tomorrow.
  • May 26, 2009, 09:46 AM
    jammixmaster

    Also, girls HATE that whole "wait 4 days before calling" thing. If she texts you, text her back. If she calls, answer. If she gives you her number during the day, call her that night and ask her out during the weekend. If she gives you her number at night, call her around noon the next day. Let her know you're interested. If a guy doesn't respond quick enough, she'll find another. And with 3.5 billion guys in the world, she'll have no problem seeking new "meat".

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