We had been together for a year and a half and just moved in together 2 weeks ago, we were making all kinds of future plans and I had just graduated nursing school.

When we first got together he was dating several women at the same time, and cheated on me once during the relationship, he said no woman had ever chin checked him as I did, so in the past he got away with cheating in his relationships.

He started making good changes and I told him it would take time to fully get my trust back we were working together..

Then last week out of the blue he emails me a letter about christianity and being equally yoked, and that he wanted to get whole in christ.. so he ended our relationship

I left back home and received a call from him crying his heart out that he missed me and wanted me back, but the same day he filled his phone back up with several ex girlfriends numbers and told me he was just crying in the moment, he turned cold?

I don't understand is he afraid?

Maybe it was an excuse to end the relationship... perhaps it was all becoming more serious than he was ready for. He seems to have made it pretty clear he isn't ready to be in a longterm relationship right now... better you found it out now than after making even more plans.

Word of caution: think twice about getting involved with someone who has cheated on you and has admitted to cheating in the past with others, only stopping because he got caught.

I know it hurts now, and it may not seem like it since it changes all of your plans and the direction you thought your life was going, but in time you will likely realize that it was for the best.

It doesn't matter if he's afraid or not. He's a cheater and I don't understand how you can even trust him as a boyfriend.

You can do so much better. Move on and find someone who respects you and will make you happy.

He is playing games and is showing no regard for you.
Being one with Christ and having a loving adult relationship are not exclusive
It sounds like a line of B.S. from this vantage point.
He is toying with your emotions and you need to put a stop to it.
I think he just wants the freedom to play the field.
Don't allow him to take advantage of your love for him.

What does chin checked mean?

Not sure what equally yoked means, but why does becoming a christian mean you must break up with your girl friend? I don't get the connection.

I'm so confused? He was crying in the moment? What moment? When he was talking to you, but then got over it and added the old phone numbers back to his phone?


This is what I am getting. He is a player, then not, then a christian, then breaks up, then cries wanting you back, then becomes a player again. Is the christian thing still going on. Did his christian teachings dictate that he break up with you, and then add all the old girl friends back?

From what you write my guess is he cheated on you again and felt guilty about so he tried to "find God" to get the answer. As a result of the guilt he dumped you but really didn't want to let you go or he got played real hard by the girl he cheated on you with and came crawling back. Either way, it's time you found yourself and did not put up with this anymore.

Don't let him back into your life. It seems like he is going back to his old behavior--playing the field. He can't commit even though he tried.

Breaking up with you over an email was taking the coward way out.

Let him be conflicted by hisself and you start a life without him. Being a nurse is going keep you busy and you will find someone better.

Keep your head up and don't talk to him anymore to hear his cries.

He is merely giving you an excuse, most likely a lie about why he is breaking up.

Unequal yoke means he is not wanting to date or marry a non believer but only date Christians

So it may be a reason to ask you to marry him instead of living together but sounds like religion was a fast excuse

Don't trust anything that comes out his lying mouth, because he will say anything to get what he wants, and cover his tracks.

Why are you still tolerating his existence?