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  • May 24, 2009, 01:25 PM
    Lifes2confusing
    I'm confused about this guy who may like me.
    Well, I'm a fourteen year old girl and at the beginning of my second semester of grade nine I met this guy. He's my friends ex, but I couldn't help but like him. He's really nice to me, not everyone likes him, my friends find him a bit scary (from his appearance, he's 'scene' my friends... aren't), but he's really a sweet guy. Unfortunately he's done drugs, which I don't approve of personally, but he's quitting. I think he might be lying to me, but he insists that he is not lying to me and he's trying his best to make me believe him.
    I'm kind of shy and I'm not so great at talking to people, I'm much better at expressing myself through writing, so he started writing notes to me and for five months now, we've been passing each other notes in between class, since he's only in one of my classes and a grade higher than me. One day in my drama class, he gave me a note that told me that he cared about me and he didn't want to see me so upset all the time (I've been writing him about my ex boyfriend I'm not completely over and I've been a little more depressed than I should be about the whole thing). He said he knew he hadn't known me for very long but he told me I could ask him any question about him, as long as I promised to explain to him why I was so depressed about some guy.
    A little while after that, he gave me this really cute picture he drew in his careers class, of him and me kissing. I was really happy and drew him a picture back. A while later he drew another one of us, clearly kissing once again, and he called me and invited me over. He ended up coming over to my house and while we watched a movie he pulled me onto his lap and held me until we had to drive him home. He drew a few more pictures for me and he gave me a present. I know it might sound a bit silly because all that sounds like he does like me, but a while ago, he told me on the phone before he started apparently liking me, that he wasn't going to date anyone for a while. Also he dumped my friend because of this problem of his that would also affect him in a situation if he were to date me... I'm going to try to ask him about it, if he's going to date me or not, but it might be awkward. I just need to know because if he's just leading me on then there's no point in hanging out with him so much... I just don't know what to do. Will it be a bit too fast if I ask him if he's going to go out with me eventually? That'll probably make him feel uncomfortable, wouldn't it? What do I do? :confused:

    Thank you so much for anyone who comments, I really appreciate it a lot and I'm quite sorry if that was a bit too long and boring. Thank you again.
  • May 24, 2009, 04:35 PM
    N0help4u

    Yeah don't jump into or push anything until you know for sure he has quit the drugs.
  • May 27, 2009, 05:22 PM
    Lifes2confusing

    Ok, thanks so much. Well I know he's still smoking regular cigarettes, but he used to do weed, he had been free of it for quite a while but, as he told me, "got pressured" to do it at a friends place, and told me the day after. So now he's been free for about one or two months now... from what he's told me. My ex also did drugs but I didn't know about it until a while after we broke up... I just don't want to have a big secret like that between me and this guy too... and I also heard he's moving, I think I may ask him about the moving thing... I'm not exactly sure if I should though... =/ I'm not trying to make any sort of move on him and I'm keeping my distance... is that the right thing to do?

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