I've been with my boyfriend over 3 years now, I'm 16 and I'm not feeling myself anymore
Its bin like this: on and off, throughout the 2 years we've been together, the first year was amazin, he was just everythin I wanted in a lad. Only its getting worse, I've had so many chances with other lads and I turned them down, I don't go out with my friends anymore because we are always in the house together but that's his choice. Basically everything is his choice, because he decides what's going on and what he wants.

3 weeks ago, there's was a time for the past 2 weeks id get finished every single day and I kept running back:( he said the most nastiest things anyone could ever say to me. He used to tell me he's fed up of me and how thinks we don't work, he doesn't want me or stopped feeling for me anymore. He even called me a slag and perthetic, if I cried in front of him he would just sit there and smile and so on.. n then I starrted talking to a lad I think is so amazing, so when my boyfriend finished me I actually didn't run back because I felt I had someone I could talk to, so me and this lad started talking and decided to meet up a few times and then I started getting bonbarred with texts and fone calls and nocks on the door from my ex saying how much he wanted me and how much he changed he begged on the floor for 2 days and kept ringing to see how I am and how he wants change and he told my friends and family how he is going change, and I'm so stupid I believed him and took him back.. letting down the other lad I got quiet close to:(

Only it didn't last for so long it lasted over 3 weeks and now he has started finishen me again every day so far since Wednesday now. I started to get a bit paranoid because there's a girl who is constantly starin at him all the time and I saw him stare back a few times so I asked why did he do it and ovbiously he denied he didn't anyway half an hour l8r he tells me he has had enough of me accusin him of starin at girls and its over.. so I went running to his house nockin on forgiving for a chance {this was yesterday} n he wouldn't answer the door he opend the window and said how he doesn't want to be with me anymore I'm nothing to him and then he opend the down stairs window and then said OK were are together but I'm going out I've made plans { this is something he never does because he always says were together everyday, although we actually made plans for yesterday} and he says well I'm going out with m8s weather you like it or not, I've had enough of being in with you: bearing in mind I always let my friends down to be with him like I did on that day actually, anyway he said were starting to have days off starting now and we are having mondays and fridays off, when the day before we decided to have Monday n Thursday away from each other, he kept saying for god sake go home I'm going out end off now go and leave me alone, let me close the window and by that I ended up slappin him across the face and gave him his coat back and he smiled at me.. anyway an hour later silly me went crawlin back to him and rang him and said are we together and he said well its all down to u, u gave me my coat bk and slapped me I said your the one ditchin me for your mates something you promiced in front of my family and friends you wouldn't do. And he goes well I am end of! If you don't like it you no where you can go, and then he decided we are together and that we are going to talk tomorrow [ which is today] so I rang him earlier to see what time I'm with him and what happening he said he doesn't no what he is doing yet he will let me know so I said am I with you today then he said YES, shouted and I said promice he said yea I said promice and he said god sake I promice and then said I'm going anyway tlk later, and now I feel left out and just don't no what to do, I don't even want to be alive anymore because I have nobody I changed everythin for him and then he goes and treats me like that after begging on the floor crying his heart out in front of my friends and family promicin everythin will change, I don't know what to do without him although I no I'm better off without him. I'm so confused I just don't know what to doo

Can anyone help me?

Thanks
From leanne :rolleyes:

Time to let him go, and get your own self back. This isn't love, nor is it healthy.

I agree. You need to tell him to bugger off for good and get your life back. If your friends give you e for it then simply say you're sorry and that's all you can say. You were being silly and you won't make the same mistake again. He sounds like a right jerk and you deserve better than that. DITCH HIM! You were right to slap him too by the way :P this isn't love, its blind love. Its lust. You need to get over him and find someone who will treat you right, and let you go out with your friends. Have fun, enjoy yourself, and maybe see iif that other guy is still around :P hope this helps :)

Hey I just made a profile to answer your question haha me & my boyfriend were shocked well at least I was. I was actually in almost the same drama but let me say that after a while with the right guy things do change its all about having breaks & getting time to grow up & deal with the world alone at our age where not meant to be serious about this stuff & change ourselves for our partners if the guy cares about you, you won't have to change anything about yourself only ofcorse if it's the bad stuff like if you start getting paranoid & all that. Honestly your boyfriend or ex? Seems like a but I understand after 3 years how you can't let go maybe because his actually a good guy I know that sounds weird but my advice to you is stop giving him power over you if he wants a break give him the longest break of his life & it will be hard but trust me I did it with my boyfriend & now we both gave each other another chance & I've never felt so strong about us I hope everything works out for the best if your boyfriend doesn't pull his together after the break get rid of him no BOY is worth you & your friends time go out & have fun with them & don't change yourself anymore your boyfriend will see how lucky he is all yous need is space yous don't need to talk to each other every day :P anyway take care tata

Well, if I understand your post correctly (hard to do with all the abbriviations and text speak)

Its definitely time to move on and leave this guy. You should never lose yourself in the event of getting a guy. Its just not worth it.

Good luck hon.

Girl, dump him if my boyfriend was like that I would be like were done. You don't need that, You will be fine. There are plenty of men in this world with manners and will respect you, and don't take him back, if he comes back. If he was once like that, he always going to be like that . Hope this help


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It sounds like he saw you had a good thing and he didn't like it so he PRETENDED to want you back to screw with your head and your life a little more. You need to dump him and NEVER speak to you again because he will not change he is 100% PURE JERK
Don't let him jerk your chain.