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  • May 22, 2009, 08:40 PM
    Izzyy
    Boyfriend says he doesn't "need" me
    So my boyfriend of almost 2 years just recently kissed another girl and I've been giving him hell about it.

    We're still together but I can't help but feel that if he truly was in love with me than he wouldn't even flirt with another girl let alone kiss her.

    Well today we were talking and I was being a about the situation and I could imagine him getting extremely frustrated with talking about it but I need to let my feelings out,

    Well he told me that he doesn't need me in his life, that he's an independent man and that he would be completely fine without me,
    What in the world am I to think ? Should I just end it immediately?
  • May 22, 2009, 08:51 PM
    catch 22

    End it. Your first impression was correct, someone who loves you wouldn't even consider doing something like that.
  • May 22, 2009, 09:05 PM
    talaniman

    https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/adult-...ng-356508.html

    Yes you should end, and check yourself into a rehab. You have more problems than he does.
  • May 23, 2009, 12:25 AM
    Janmarie
    Take what he has said to you as his truth. He not only told you he doesn't need you in his life but is also showing you. End it and move on. If you try to plead your case or try to convince him in anyway that he is wrong (which is a reaction that many women do in situations like this) will only make you look desperate and needy and above all a crazy woman, which will only confirm in his mind that he has made the correct choice. He doesn't need you which gives you the opportunity to find someone who does.
  • May 23, 2009, 01:41 PM
    makapuu

    I like to believe that men speak their minds as it is. So that means he doesn't "need" you. He doesn't need you to give him grief for kissing another girl. Does he "want" you? He probably does, but he also wants to kiss other girls. So you need to ask yourself the same questions. Do you need him and do you want him?
    I am a strong, independent, well-rounded woman. I don't "need" my boyfriend, and he knows that. He's the love of my life, and I "want" him in my life... he knows that too.
  • May 23, 2009, 02:00 PM
    liz28

    If he loved you he wouldn't be kissing another girl.

    Also, I must say if you forgave him by taking him back and then you was giving him hell about this--then he could've said this out of anger.

    However once he kissed another girl trust went out the window and some relationships recover and some don't.

    I read your other post and right now this is the least of your problems. Leave him and go get the help you need for yourself.
  • May 23, 2009, 03:00 PM
    N0help4u

    I tell my boyfriend I don't NEED him
    But I do want him.
    He doesn't even want you or he wouldn't be having this attitude of 'doing what he wants and not considering your being his girlfriend.

    Dump him and get yourself whole.
    They say it takes two whole people to make a complete couple.
  • May 23, 2009, 03:59 PM
    I wish

    Well if he doesn't need you, then you certainly don't need him.

    Kissing another girl = cheating

    Why prolong the inevitable. End it now.
  • May 23, 2009, 04:23 PM
    roxypox

    I read your other thread as well... is it the same girl as in detox?

    I think that even if it is your BF seems to be in some trouble. He might have said it out of anger... (of course I don't know)

    But maybe it is time for you to move on and let him deal with his life the way he wants to. If he wants to go around kissing other girls (even as a 'kindness' or whatever his excuse was) then you should just leave him at his own devises and move on with your life.
  • May 24, 2009, 01:25 AM
    Gemini54
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by talaniman View Post
    https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/adult-...ng-356508.html

    Yes you should end, and check yourself into a rehab. You have more problems than he does.

    Had to spread the rep T, but loved your answer. Short and to the point.
  • May 24, 2009, 07:47 AM
    none12345

    End it. A cheating partner is definitely not worth staying for.

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