For the past year, I've been told I'm worthless because I haven't work (been looking though). I'm not a decent mother because I'm not helping support our son. He stood there and said to my son "I'm sorry your mon's a stupid b*t*h". He will say something and say he didn't say it. He has lied to me constantly, when our son was in the recovery room after surgury he sneaked into a bathroom to call his wife, which he says he has to be nice to because they own a business together, but isn't to me at all, I will call he up during the day and just the sound of his voice when he talks to me makes my skin crawl, but he will anser the phone saying what the F do you want, but say it isn't with an attitude. He stopped touching me because I said he needed to touch me period. He wouldn't let me have my own house keys for six months, only got them back because a officer said something about it. He took away my cell phone because he is the one who pays the bill on it but pays for his ex mother in laws still and 4 days notice wasn't significant notice to use his truck. Everything was my fault, the reason he talked to his ex everyday, the reason he talked to other woman sexually. Now he is trying to say I have mental problems because I was trying to get us to go to counseling to work out our problems and it would always turn into him blaming me and the conversation never went any further because he would end up hangng up on me. He actually had made me wonder if I am or not now. I feel as I've been pushed to my limit, I cannot reason with him nor is there any compromise with him, never a happy medium but he tells me I'm controlling. I don't understand it. Is it me>

First of all if he does not want counseling. I suggest you go to counseling yourself. You can share your thoughts and feelings and also get guidance on what to do to improve this situation and your life in general.

If this is truly the way he treats you, You need to get out. You need to leave. I am a little bit confused about one part you said he went into the washroom to call his wife? If he has a wife, who are you?

So yes get out of this situation. Leave. Get counseling for yourself first. That is pretty much it.

Joe

Oh sorry, he isn't divorced yet, we have a 17 month old son together, for the past 9 years he flip flopped between me and his wife. When I met him he told me his was single, yes I fell for it, bad move on my part I know. I did move out a week ago today, and he is now trying to get full custody of our son. Trying to say I'm mentally unstable, but after putting up with the past 9 years and doing that, oh yea I must be a little nuts.

Not nuts, but I am glad your out now. I think you need to share the story about the abuse that he has put you through. I do not think any judge in their right might would give this guy custody.

Best of luck with everything.

Joe

I would only hope that but he is such a good liar. The one good thing is that my oldest daughter who is 23 was living in the home and was witness to it. But he keeps making threats as to how he is going to prove she is a liar. He has told me many times he will do whatever it takes and I don't doubt that now.

The thing is you have your daughter and yourself. That is two people against his word.

His word does not mean a thing.

Joe

He has so much control as to how he acts and reacts now, not the person he was with me. It got so bad there for awhile that I even started questioning myself as to whether he said it or not or I would ask someone first, he literally made me feel like I was losing my mind. Even when he was talking to other women and telling me it was my fault, the first time I had to think about it.